Last week as a flight I was on was unloading at the airport, a rush of people behind me (I was in row 20 of a plane with about 35 rows) came rushing up before the actual deplaning, as people were standing up as the plane had just docked. They had to stop at some point due to lack of room. I had only seen this before when people from the back needed to deplane rapidly due to tight timelines on connecting flights, and this has usually been announced the the steward/ess.
I stood up (had an aisle seat) and asked one of the rushers if she had a connecting flight, and she said no. I replied to her that the usual procedure is for people to deplane by rows, unless there were connecting flights so I was sure she would wait for my row to leave before she left, which she did.
What would you have done?
I've never been on a plane that was any thing less than a crunch of people rushing the door well before we got to the jetway. I think you were rude to lecture an adult who was doing the cultural norm.
I would have sat in my seat, getting up to let middle and window out if they wanted, until the plane was empty. Then I would have walked at my usual pace to baggage claim and waited the 10 - 15 minutes until the luggage came down the shoot. I would wait while everyone did the running of the bulls to get their luggage. Retrieved my luggage after the stampede (the luggage goes around more than twice). Walked to the shuttle gotten in my car/rental and left with much less blood pressure than the rest of the crowd. We have always been the last off flights, never missed a flight for that reason. (If we missed a flight it was usually because of thunderstorms over Dallas). Never had our luggage stolen from baggage claim. We always seem to be in better moods than those in the crush.