Problem with me is, this.
Person asks me unreasonable, unfeasible request.
Me: Erm, maybe...I don't know...I...I...
Person: Well, look, it's not unreasonable, you're off work anyway.
Me: But I don't have time to do it (more like I don't want to do it, even if I did have time for it).
Person: If you do this for me, you save my life and you're a wonderful person.
I end up doing whatever favour and rushing about on my day off work which is supposed to be spent doing Nice Things with DS, and I end up resentful and seething inside towards this person I really, really didn't want to do this thing for.
Usually, it's meeting up with my mother who (as you may recall) I have not always had the easiest of relationships
with. This ebbs and flows - sometimes we're great together, sometimes we'd kill each other, but that is the nature of the beast and I have made peace with that. It is my own lack of spine that drives me mad.
I put the phone down and what pops into my head?? I am sorry, but that is not possible.
I fume with myself, really I do!! The magic words are there, to me...I just never remember them until I don't need the magic any more.