It is not mean spirited to suggest that if someone has a Don't Do This sign on their property it would be a little odd for them to do it on other people's. I mean, the sign says "If you don't have a LEGITIMATE reason to be here, please go away." Who is to say knocking on doors asking for debris is legitimate business? The homeowner, obviously; but it isn't mean spirited to suggest other home owners may feel the way Knitterly does. She wants people to go away ... maybe they do, too.
I want sales people to not ring my doorbell when my baby is sleeping because it interrutps her naps and frequently means she won't go back down.
I hope I can make a few things really clear:
1) If I don't have my "don't ring the bell" sign up, the bell is fair game (to all but solicitors - especially that same lawn care company who keeps harassing the entire neighbourhood).
2) You can't read the sign from the door.
3) If someone had a sign on their lawn or door or anything, I would not bother them. Period. I would respect their privacy.
4) I am not the neighbourhood grouch. I am also not the only person in the neighbourhood who is flat out annoyed by the sheer quantity of scammy salespeople we get flocking through here.
I really don't see my request to please not ring my bell because the baby is sleeping as conveying that I never want to meet my neighbours. It's not a "do not disturb" sign. It's an "I don't want to buy your junk" and a "please for the love of deity don't wake up my sleeping kid" sign. I would not find it at all strange if a neighbour with a sign stating that they didn't want to be disturbed because their baby is sleeping came up and knocked on my door during a non-nap hour. I wouldn't find it strange at all. But then, I might, myself, be a little strange. The jury's still out on that.
I think I am being misunderstood here – I really wouldn’t have a problem with it, and I don’t think most of my neighbors would, either. It would just be a head scratcher coming from someone who has a sign on their door that plainly says go away. I wouldn’t expect No Dogs lady to bring her dog wandering into my yard, I wouldn’t expect someone who hung a No Parking sign at their own house to park in front of mine, and I wouldn’t expect the lady with the go away sign to randomly knock on my door looking for neighborliness. None of them would bother me … I’d just be a little “Huh?” about it. There’s nothing mean spirited about it, it just is.
And yes, I understand Your Child Is Sleeping. C’mon now. I also know that "LEGITIMATE" is subjective and "go away" does not convey a whole lot of neighborly love. And that's fine. It's just a little incongruous.
I think the issue that I (and a few other posters) have with what you're saying is that you seem to be implying that I'm the lady with the "go away" sign, and therefore also have no desire to be neighbourly. That may not actually be what you are saying, but I have gotten that impression from the way your posts have been phrased. I just feel like "Baby is sleeping, please go away" isn't the same as "go away". I'm not sure how I can convey to you that the sign isn't up all the time and that I would also respect any "do not disturb" type signs on anyone else's property. I just don't think it would be at all out of line for someone with a "baby sleeping" sign to approach neighbours during non-baby-sleeping times.
I DO agree that it would be awfully hypocritical of someone to have such a sign on their door and then to ignore such signs on other people's doors.
In any case, LK and I just got home from a nice leisurely stroll around the neighbourhood. We had a fairly good sized ice storm last night and there were many big downed branches strewn about. I managed to get a really great bundle of beautiful branches and twigs from the sidewalk and the middle of the road.
A few neighbours were out clearing their driveways. One lady made a comment about the twigs and I told her what I was doing (collecting twigs for carving). She told me to help myself to anything I wanted from her driveway and lawn. She saw it as a service and not an imposition at all.
It was pretty cool. I was able to get what I wanted without stepping even a toe on anyone's property. I collected a good bit from the middle of the road, which I personally see as being of benefit to everyone in the neighbourhood.