I wanted to post an update on our birthday party/clambake. Dh decided to not have a birthday party but to have a clambake in September, after everyone's schedules settled. Plus, we only committed after a major project had already been completed. It went much better this time
First we invited some extended family and this changed the dynamic a bit, but in a good way.
I did absolutely no cooking. Dh bough all the sides like potato salad. I was disappointed, because I like my own better, but I didn't care when almost nobody ate it.
Of course there were a few last minute projects the morning of the party, including installing a new toilet and assembling some chairs, among other things. Teenage nephew and his girlfriend showed up an hour early
so we put them to work
. Actually, he did such a good job that if we do this again next year, we may ask him to come early to help.
When I got overwhelmed, family members offered to help and I was able to step back and think about what they could do. I really appreciated the help. Dh told me one family member got grabby with the lobster, insisting that she get to choose hers first. He let her. Karma struck though when the lobster she pulled from the box was missing a claw. She tried to put it back and pick another but he told her no, she was greedy and had to pick first and now she had to take what she picked. Yea dh!
It was still a lot of work but I enjoyed it much more next time. It was nice to see everyone and I'm actually looking forward to doing next year.
Thank you all, for your suggestions. They helped so much and I was able to enjoy myself this time