Either a man or a woman should be able to understand "I am scheduled for some medical tests that need to be done sooner rather than later - I can not reschedule this close to the appointment."
Doesn't matter if it a male part, a female part, cancer, infection, heart, or whatever - it is not going to be rescheduled AND you have to be there for them to do the tests. You can't "phone it in"!
The deceased worker - rephrasing the comment as "they are no longer working for our company" could be escalated to "they passed away". Although I have run into a few people who only understand "dead" as meaning "dead" - any synonyms with less impact don't get processed, it seems.....
And my own VorGuy needs to be hit with a big verbal blunt object, because trying to be "politely vague" is seen as obfuscation, prevarication, or just plain lying (because it took him into his late fifties to look up the real meaning of the first two words).
I now know not to tell him "just a minute" as I head down the hall to the bathroom (changing table with a baby, closet with an armload of clean clothes, standing at the stove with a skillet in one hand & a spatula in the other, whatever is going on that he can't see what I'm doing because there is a wall or two between us) if what I really mean is "YOUR needs are taking a back seat to what I am already doing because my hands are FULL right now".
Sadly, it too me until 2012 to figure out some of this out.......boy, do I feel dumb.