ok so we all know that unless you are a person of said descent/rapper you can't use the "N" word, that's a given (although even then i think it's a weird thing to do!)
i was on a bus in london and a group of young men of african descent got on and started hassling an older lady trying to get her to move seats, and they were saying "look at that honky white witch" etc etc, i lent over to one and said quietly, "how is that not racist but if she was to call you a colour based name it would be? whats the difference?"
he looked surprised and they started trying to explain why it wasn't, with the best line i ever heard, "but i is black so i can't be racist" .... as my stop was coming up i asked on last question "how is it not racist if you are judging her based on the colour of her skin?"
i left it there and they had all gone quiet, as i got off the bus i got a nod and a wink form the conductor.
No, “we” do not all know that, and No, it is not a “given”. Those are assumptions and generalizations – which is one of the problems about racism.
Many (most) people of color do not use the N word, and find it affensive.
I think you handled yourself appropriately on the bus. However, your experience with the young man/men on the bus does not mean all members of his race agree with him. Again - a generalization and a racist stereotype.
As far as some other comments, racism is wrong and it does not "depend on the situation".
Really? so you would use it? because unless you want to get your butt kicked no-one of european/asian/other origin (unless doing it in a racist fashion) uses that word wherever i've lived, and thats up and down the UK and across Australia.
i said it was a given as i feel that unless you are of a race ie from pakistan, you don't use the derogatory term - (in the UK "paki" is offensive, however i have friends from there who are using it in a "we is paki's" way, trying to reclaim it, turning it into an identity thing rather than a nasty term.)
i never said that all do act like or agree with him, i was sharing one of my experiences where i witnessed racism and acted.
i don't see how i stereotyped, i spoke having witnessed different situations and having been involved. black, white, yellow or green with pink polka dots, doesn't matter, you treat everyone equally.
would you have commented if i said i saw an elderly African lady being harassed by white youths and spoke to them?