My friend Amy has fond memories of playing with her same-aged cousins and kids of her parents' friends. Which is great when that works out. But it seems weird to me to purposefully try to manufacture that situation, straight from conception. I remember being at her house shortly after she was married, and another married friend of hers was there, and Amy said, "It would be great if we had kids around the same time, so they could play together!"
But it wasn't so much, "it would be great if the stars aligned and this happened," it was more like, "are you interested in coordinating such a thing." I guess asking
is better than assuming or demanding, but the concept of "coordination" had never occurred to me before and I was kind of like,
. The other woman handled it very tactfully (basically NO) and then bean-dipped.
Plus, yeah, there's absolutely no guarantee that the kids (siblings, cousins, friends' kids) will actually get along. For contrary children like me, knowing that I was "supposed" to get along with someone would actually nudge me in the opposite direction.