BG: A friend periodically visits her sister and BIL and their 2 sons (11 & 14). Throughout the past couple of years friend has told me about a few disputes she has had with her sister and BIL – nothing serious, no screaming arguments but still things they disagree about. Of course, I’m just hearing one side, but, whatever. Bottom line: friend and sister have an “okay” relationship
but not really warm and loving.
Friend’s DS and BIL have neighbors they are very close to. They are always over at each other’s houses, and their 12 yr old son is close to friend’s nephews (the 11 & 14 yr olds). Friend has mentioned that she has picked up some negative “vibes” from the neighbors and also their son on a couple of occasions. Neighbors seem cool towards her, and their son has been rude an a few occasions (not speaking, grunting when asked a question, etc.) /End BG
I didn’t think much of it until I witnessed it first hand.
I accompanied friend to her sister’s house for a short visit. While we were there, neighbors and their son came over. I was introduced, then when friend spoke to neighbors they barely acknowledged her and the son said nothing. He ran past friend, stepped on her foot (accidentally), and kept going. Friend called him back and said “X, you stepped on my foot. You’re supposed to say “Excuse me.” Kid mumbled “excuse me”, looked at the other kids, rolled his eyes, and ran back outside. None of the adults said anything.
I was shocked.
About 15 minutes later we had to leave. Parents of the rude kid said “Nice to meet you” (to me) but nothing to friend.
So, I’m wondering if maybe friend’s sister (and/or BIL) have said some negative things about her to neighbors and within earshot of the kids, and based on what has been discussed the 12 yr old neighbor kid thinks it’s okay to be nasty to friend. Does that sound far-fetched?
Do kids often treat people according to how their parents feel about the person? And, how could the stepping on foot incident have been handled better?