@ Sake. Sounds like you really feel the cold and should you have been in lodger's shoes would not have taken the room or would agreed to pay the amount that would have covered any extra bills.
Lodger and I do not have a written agreement. Lodgers can be asked to move without notice, but I would say it would be hard to have the law on your side, if you did not give reasonable notice unless the circumstances warranted such a drastic measure. Tenants have rights but lodgers under the law have none. Fair or not for lodgers, that is law where I live.
Lodger is in her early 20ís. In the last couple of days, since starting this thread, I have come to the conclusion that the acronym FIGJAM describes her pretty well. She is not evil, just young and full of herself
. Lodger doesn't come across that she is deliberately misleading me ..... I just need to remember to take what she says with a grain of salt. And following the advice given by many posters, that any communication from me is clear and unambiguous.
Rather than Lodger thinking that she has equal status (thanks Bopper for those words) but the upper hand. I believe she thinks 1) that I am too soft-hearted to ask her to move and 2) that because I really need the extra income, she has the upper hand and Iím not in the position to ask her to move out, therefore she doesnít consider that some things that she does may be annoying enough for me to do so, as she doesnít think that I can or that I would.
A little further info Ė not really relevant but may help you understand my situation. At the moment Iím not working full time, but am earning enough to almost cover my living expenses. My mother has been diagnosed with dementia so I want fly interstate (2000kms) to visit her every few months.)
I appreciate all the advice and thoughts from everyone here on e-hell.