I agree that dish drainers are for draining dishes and that it works fine in a single family/user situation. When you are sharing a kitchen you need to accommodate each other and keep the area ready for use, lets say 90% of the time. In reality, sometimes you are running behind and have no option to leave, then come home and tidy the kitchen.
Let me put it this way to PPs. How would you feel if 90% of the time, when you went to use the kitchen things were in your way - i) if roommate/lodger is home you go to her room, ask that she puts her things away and remain polite after the 4th+ time of asking or ii) you put her things away yourself or iii) leave them in drainer but then need utensils that just happens to be underneath everything else? I can't be alone here, surely it would bother others as well.
I don't dislike her, we get along when we chat, we watch TV together (and yes she can chose what to watch) and I really try to be a good, fair and kind landlady. To be honest I have compromised in quite a few ways to suit her and her needs, over and above what should be required. eg: she gets up later than I do, so I don't vacuum or put on the washing machine until she is up and about and not disturbed. Lodger gets up 8am or a little later while I am up at 6.45 ish. I let lodger know when my family and friends are coming over, so she isn't sprung wearing her night clothes. She is not expected to go to her room, she is always invited to join us if she wants or to keep watching TV. Friends coming over at night happens less than once a fortnight, a cuppa during the day maybe once, sometimes twice per week - since lodger moved in I tend to visit friends rather than them come to me, so not to disturb lodger so much.
It is very disheartening to read some of the comments, when PP have said that would have already moved out or I'm not suitable to sharing. Why - I wasn't the one using up all of someone else's food, I'm not the one putting others health as risk be allowing meat juices to drip in the fridge and I'm not causing a continual problem in the kitchen. OK, that last one is a matter of opinion
. The heating is set to what is considered the norm (and not just by me) and I certainly not saying that the heating can't be turned up higher if she willing to pay towards the extra costs. I rectified my blanket issue, and it was my issue, in a way that Lodger was not even aware that I knew she used my blanket, let alone knew that it squeaked me a bit. Thanks to you all I handled it well. Lodger has her own shelves in fridge, freezer and pantry, there is a section in the cupboards for her personal crockery, containers etc but she uses mine so this area is empty. Lodger has her own en-suite and as far as I know she does not enter the main bathroom which is separate from the living areas.