They wanted to come back next time that band was in town and were offended that I refused.
DH has a "friend" who was so offended that DH had to turn him down for staying at our (then just DH's) house that he flaked on plans he and his family had made to visit.
We just bought our house last year; escrow closed then DH gave 30-days' notice to vacate his apartment. DH also had an annual commitment that took place the last weekend he would have his apartment (which still had stuff in it and still needed to be cleaned). Prior to escrow closing, DH's friend announced he and his family (six individuals total) would be coming up for the event. We had no idea when escrow would close so, as far as Friend knew, DH would still be living in his apartment when they showed up. About a week before the event (when DH had been living in our house only two weeks at this point), DH said Friend asked if he and his family could spend the night at our house (I wasn't living there yet but, still, it was OUR house so DH wanted to make sure I was okay with it). DH said he needed to check with me first but didn't think it would be a problem. I reminded DH that he needed to be out of his apartment by the end of the weekend so, no, having a big family (or anyone, for that matter) stay over was not going to fit with our schedule that weekend. DH wasn't happy (because he hates saying no to anyone for anything) but agreed about the schedule conflict so let Friend know that it wasn't going to work out and was honest with him about the reason.
Friend didn't say anything but, apparently, was not okay with DH not letting him treat our house as his own personal hotel because, when day of event came (and event came and went), Friend and family were a no-show, no-call. I wasn't surprised because something similar had happened a year or two earlier. Friend and family were on a vacation road trip so Friend announced he would be in our area and wanted to visit DH; DH and I went grocery shopping in anticipation of them coming but didn't know the time they'd be arriving. DH finally called Friend's wife since he couldn't reach Friend and asked her, and DH said she seemed a bit put off by the question and said *she* didn't know. Anyway, we learned the afternoon of the day they were supposed to come by that they decided to overnight at their friend's house about 45min-1hr away from DH's apartment and wouldn't be coming by after all. I just looked at DH and said (to which DH agreed), "Next time they say they're coming by for a visit, we don't do ANY shopping until we know they are on their way" (they live about 3-4 hours away from us).
So, this previous rudeness still in the air, Friend flakes again. DH and I get back to our house, and DH, a little concerned (and a little ticked), calls Friend to find out if something happened to them. Friend claims he had a headache and suggested to DH that DH go back to doing his apartment cleaning.
I was pissed. I couldn't believe how rude and entitled Friend was that when DH had a legitimate reason to say, "No, you can't stay over because it will cost us $$ per each extra day in that apartment if not vacated by the agreed-upon date," Friend held it against him (never mind that Friend used to treat DH as his own personal bank years ago and, when DH had to sell his father's business, Friend ASKED DH TO GIVE HIM THE MONEY!!!
Anyway, I still couldn't believe, right after that conversation with Friend, DH asked if we could invite him and his family to stay at our house the month after our wedding.
. I told DH no and that the answer to that kind of behavior is not to reward it (DH couldn't understand why I was so against this idea until I put it in those exact words "You don't reward bad behavior").
I still don't want them staying at our house as I'm afraid Friend and family would be unkind to our house (Friend destroyed his wife's grandmother's house by letting it fall to ruin instead of maintaining it; their own house was the same way). I'm also afraid Friend might take something from us (Friend swindled one of DH's best friends out of a few hundred dollars and had just met the guy; Friend met DH's best friend then, a few days later, calls him and asks if he could "borrow" some money -- BF, thinking Friend must be a good guy because he's a devout Catholic like DH and one of DH's friends, loans him the money...then Friend dodges all of BF's phone calls. The money, 20 years later, still isn't paid back).
The only reason DH maintains contact is because he is godparent to ALL of Friend's children and takes that connection seriously. I like Friend's wife, and the children are nice people. Friend is actually a friendly guy. HOWEVER, I don't want any of them staying at our house, especially after I've seen how they didn't take care of their own (really, the thought causes me a lot of anxiety and, actually, DH doesn't really want them staying at our house either as he agrees that we'd likely be treated as a hotel).