I posted recently that I had lost a friend, Danny, to diabetes complications on 4/15. His memorial was a few days later and, as it always does, life is moving on although I still miss my friend and will be grieving the loss for some time.
My DH went out for a little while to hang out with some of our friends. He tells me that one of them, "Don," was complaining incessantly that an item of Danny's was given to another person within our group of friends. In Don's mind that was grossly unfair because he (Don) had been closer friends with Danny. He wanted the item and evidently carried on at length about how unworthy the other guy was.
I am 99% sure that I'll be seeing Don tonight and I really, really do not want to hear about what he thinks he "deserves." First of all, if it made Danny's mom & fiance happy to give the item to the other guy, then that's all that matters. Don has no claim on anything. Secondly, since Danny started getting really sick a couple of years ago, most of his friends-Don included-suddenly became too busy to spend any time with him. Don can talk about how he was a better friend to Danny, but I know that Danny's fiance and I were the only ones driving him to appointments, taking him to the grocery store and keeping him company during the rough times. I even told Don and the others in the group that Danny was lonely and would love a phone call or visit. Not a single one of them ever got in touch with him. So, I really have no sympathy for the "I was a better friend therefore I deserve his cool stuff more than the other guy" argument. Quite frankly I'm pretty disgusted by him and a few others who essentially abandoned Danny during his final months, yet acted all broken up when he died. However, I have refrained from saying anything.
The issue is that I will almost certainly be seeing Don tonight and I am not quite sure how to handle it if (when) he starts whining about how he wanted the really cool item. What I'd like to to is smack him across the face and tell him to shut the ehell up, but I know I cannot do that. Any ehell approved ways that you can think of that will accomplish my objective of (a) shutting him up and (b) making him realize what an entitled bacon-fed knave he is being? Would it be okay to say, "Look, Don, it's not about you. It made Danny's mom & fiance happy to give the item to other guy and that's all that matters. If you want one so badly, go buy one for yourself."