Good friend Annie is preggers. Like, really really pregnant, full term, ready to pop. Because "full-term" coincides with May the Fourth (Star Wars day) and Annie and her husband Bob are huge geek-fans (I say this lovingly as I am likewise a huge geek-fan), Bob decided he wanted to do a party for Annie. One last big fun thing before bebeh arrives.
Bob and Annie have a teeny tiny, itty bitty little house.
I knew nothing of the party. Until Yesterday. I ran into our good friend Carrie, who casually mentioned as we were about to part that "I'll be seeing you tomorrow at Annie's party, right?"
er... her say what now?
Carrie was sure that I was invited. I knew nothing of the party. I told Carrie that I was sure it wasn't meant meanly, but that I wouldn't be going. I didn't want to crash something that I was sure I wasn't invited to (and not maliciously not invited to - Carrie is closer to Annie than I am and like I said, teeny tiny house).
I got a call from our good friend Dory this morning. Dory had something for little knit and wanted to know if she'd be seeing me at Annie's tonight. I said no, as I hadn't gotten an invite and didn't feel right just showing up.
Apparently the invite was a facebook thing, so I checked facebook. It wasn't in my events list as something I was invited to. It wasn't even in Annie's or Carrie's events list, nor was it a "recommended event" (events that one or more friends are attending show up as 'recommended events - I hate this feature in facebook), meaning that Bob had made it a private event and I was truly not invited.
Please note; I am not at all offended or wounded about not being invited. It doesn't bother me at all. Teeny tiny house and lots of friends - the line has to be drawn somewhere, and I suspected strongly that the line was originally at those friends who are close to both Annie and Bob (I only know Bob in passing as Annie's husband) and had been gradually pushed outwards as one person mentioned it to another.
So after getting off the phone with Dory, apparently Dory called Annie to find out if I'd been invited or not. I think she made it sound like I was hurt, as Annie just emailed me tripping over herself with apologies for not inviting me, extending an invite, and explaining (as I'd originally assumed) that the reason I hadn't been originally invited was that Bob had originally invited only a handful of mutual friends. Carrie mentioned it to Dory, so Annie felt like she had to invite Dory.
Annie has extended an invite to me, because "of course I love you and want you to be there".
Now, I'd like to go, but I feel kind of awkward.