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Re: Must I B My Own B?
« Reply #30 on: May 07, 2013, 01:33:04 AM »
I have never heard of BYOB to mean anything except to bring your own booze.  A host should be providing pop, water  and other beverages.

Should, but a host who is mostly worried about the food and the booze (and who is planning more wine and beer than liquor which would involve mixers like soda) may not realize there isn't much of a non-alcoholic option until it's too late.  The last party I was at, I ended up drinking a watermelon-flavored juice box (originally destined for the eight-year-old's lunch) because it was the only non-alcoholic beverage in the house.  The host had bought a 2-liter of Sprite, but that was used up quickly as a mixer and there was nothing else available except tap water.  If I had known ahead of time, I would have brought my own 20-oz soda or stopped at a fast food place for a comically oversized cup.


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Re: Must I B My Own B?
« Reply #31 on: May 07, 2013, 03:59:53 AM »
I think it depends on which type of BYOB it is.

If the emphasis is on "Your" (ie, you bring what you personally want to drink), then it would be rude to not bring alcohol but expect to drink what other people had brought (swapping drinks is different). If you didn't drink alcohol, then you could bring a non alcoholic drink instead. Deciding to go in on something with friends is an option - say, sharing a six pack or a bottle of wine by pre-arrangement.

If it's a BYO to share - ie, the alcohol contributions are pooled, and people are free to help themselves - then bringing some nice mixers and garnishes would probably be appreciated, if the alcohol choices tend towards hard alcohol. Or, you could bring a six pack of some interesting soda as a contribution.

If you don't eat meat, you could bring a veggie burger, or just go with the sides.

In my experience, BYOB tends  to be done primarily for economic reasons, with a younger crowd, as otherwise hosting a party could be prohibitively expensive, particularly considering that many of your guests will not be in a position to reciprocate. BYOM is sometimes done for economic reasons, but often because the hosts don't want the headache of having to provide half a dozen different options in unknown quantities to satisfy everyone's dietary peculiarities.

It sounds like this case is the second for the meat - the hosts are providing it, but if people don't like what's offered, it's up to them to bring their own alternatives.