I had major surgery 8 weeks ago. I was laid up for about 5 weeks and the last three weeks, I have been much better. I was unable to drive for 6 weeks b/c I had to wear a hard neck collar in the car. Since I couldn't drive, I had to stay at home for that period of time. My husband came home from work early one day a week so I had at least a weekly outing to a restaurant or bar. I got the go ahead to resume driving last week. YAY! Freedom!
Many friends came to visit, sent over food, sent flowers, offered to pick me up to take me out for lunch, HH or coffee. Others said they would prior to the surgery, but never did. People get busy.
I would like to acknowledge the people who did do something. Since I am not able to entertain just yet, we want to have an event at a local wine shop that has a wine/cheese bar. We looked into restaurants and for about 25 people, would have cost a fortune. At the place I am thinking, we can buy our own wine and beer in the shop, then serve it in the wine bar. They have a menu of charcuterie, flatbreads and other snack type foods. The location is lovely as they have a huge picture window overlooking the Mississippi.
How do I pen the invitation to this? There are friends from our core group who didn't do anything, didn't enquire, didn't call, text or email. I plan to invite only those who sent food, visited, sent flowers, offered to pick me up, who took me out or enquired. I want it to be a gratitude type of event for them taking the time to do what they did. It was frustrating being cooped up at home for so long, being an independent person, so I really appreciate all that everyone did.
This group is good about not mentioning events. However, I am worried that some in the core group will hear about it and be hurt they were not invited. That is why I want to put some reason for the event in the mailed invitation. Then again, I don't want to point out to those that didn't do anything, that they didn't do anything.
Normally, I would have an event at our house. I just don't have the energy to do that right now and may not be able to entertain all summer. Amazing how Anaesthetic lingers for months after!