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Trifecta of etiquette blunders from boss regarding wedding

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Shoo:
I'm not really bothered by any of these things. 

EMuir:
OP here.  The manager is not liked by staff.  In fact, she is generally disliked.  There is some worried discussion among the invitees as to what might happen if nobody goes, wondering if someone is going to take one for the team and go.  It pretty much made the entire department feel awkward.  A few extroverts are just happy to go to any party, and will go even though they aren't friends.

This boss has also been quite private with her personal info in the past, so nobody really knows her at work.  Nobody has met her boyfriend or children, or heard her talk about them.

LifeOnPluto:
Regarding not inviting SOs to the wedding - there is a train of thought in my country (Australia) that it's ok to do this. I personally don't agree with it, but I've heard people say things like "Oh, co-workers shouldn't expect their SOs to be invited because the HC doesn't know the SOs" or even "Co-workers need to understand they're not family/friends of the HC, so they shouldn't expect the same standard of invitation" etc.

I do think your partner's boss is rude because - by issuing all these invitations - she's putting her staff in a very uncomfortable position. Unfortunately however, if your partner believes there may be repercussions from not attending, my advice would be to suck it up and attend. It's not worth risking one's job over this.

LA lady:

--- Quote from: LifeOnPluto on May 09, 2013, 11:28:47 PM ---I personally don't agree with it, but I've heard people say things like  "Co-workers need to understand they're not family/friends of the HC, so they shouldn't expect the same standard of invitation"
--- End quote ---

LoP, I am with you on not agreeing.  If co-workers are not friends or family, why are they invited to the wedding?

CrazyDaffodilLady:

--- Quote from: LA lady on May 10, 2013, 01:32:49 PM ---LoP, I am with you on not agreeing.  If co-workers are not friends or family, why are they invited to the wedding?

--- End quote ---
My manager invited the entire group to his daughter's wedding, even though many of us had never met her.  I think Manager opted to invite everyone, rather than say, just half.  We went to celebrate the occasion with him.  It was a huge lavish wedding, and was a good time.  I started crying when Manager walked down the aisle with his daughter; he doted on her, and he was so happy. 

I'm sure my gift did not begin to cover the cost of the food and entertainment provided.

I loved that the HC was registered at Home Depot. 

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