"Spastic" is actually an derogatory word in regards to a developmental disability in the USA (except when used in a strictly medical sense). It's not as bad as the "r" word, but it's not nice. In the disability community it is very NOT a nice word.
This word shows that just because you didn't intend for something to be offensive or derogatory it doesn't mean that it isn't. Language is peppered with all kinds of examples like that. Slurs are common across the English language but that doesn't mean if we mean something else that we should continue to use it once we are made aware of which loaded weapon from the arsenal of words we are brandishing. I don't use "Welsh" as in "to welsh on something" because it is saying that Welsh people are cheaters and stealers. They are not. I don''t use the word "gyp" for a similar reason.
The quote below is from Robert B Moore. He is talking about racism, but it applies equally to other kinds of prejudice such as homophobia."To recognize the racism in language is an important first step. Consciousness of the influence of language on our perceptions can help to negate most of that influence. But it is not enough to simply become aware of the effects of racism in conditioning attitudes. While we may not be able to change the language, we definitely can change our usage of the language. We can avoid using words that degrade people. We can make a conscious effort to use terminology that reflects a progressive perspective, as opposed to a distorting perspective."
I've been a member here since the last century.This is the first time I've ever posted anything like this. Personally, I don't think that anyone here should be using the word "bugger" to mean something bad because it feeds into a homophobic culture and adds into making LGBT people feel bad. If that's not enough for you personally to refrain from using it, then as it is an obscene word I don't think it should be used here anyway.
I am not going to continue to argue this point. I have explained what the problem is and why I think it is important enough for me to make this post. Each individual poster may choose or not to respect that point of view. As this is a community full of nice, intelligent people who respect that we don't use profanity or abusive terms here I expect that will be enough for most people.