Ah the issue of food compatibility.
I suppose it is really more about communication than compatibility, but I find it interesting to read anything about this topic since I am in the beginnings of a relationship
with a self-described picky eater. I am fairly sure he would refuse something he didn't like instead of eating it to be polite...
I think this issue is about 15% communication and 85% "you're the boss of your own big-person underpants." If your lamb-hating hubby chooses
to repeatedly eat something he doesn't like without voicing his feelings or asking you not to make it so often...then he is choosing to suffer in silence and has no one to blame but himself. Did he think he was martyring himself for the sake of relationship
harmony? Was he waiting for your ESP to kick in?
Now I find it hard to believe that you both went so long without you either asking him about the lamb or him voicing an opinion on it. Either you assumed (understandable but still an assumption) that no news was good news on the lamb and continued to cook it since he didn't say not to, OR you did ask him or otherwise give the opportunity for feedback and he either wasn't clear enough in his dislike or he outright lied and said it was "Fine" or "Okay" or some other similar maddeningly useless response.
If I try a new recipe, or even if I'm just thinking about it, I am going to assume things in the positive unless I have information otherwise. I think most people operate that way. Unless they are dealing with a notoriously picky and/or negative person, silence = affirmation. I tell someone I'm making lamb, that is their cue to tell me what they think of lamb. Unless they say "I hate lamb don't bother" etc. guess what? Yup, lamb on the table.
By the way, can anyone point me to the study I apparently missed that says you develop psychic power when you enter into a relationship
? It must be floating around somewhere, for so many people to be frustrated that their SO isn't reading their mind the way they are supposed to be.