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artk2002:

--- Quote from: JacklynHyde on May 20, 2013, 05:30:55 PM ---This has been happening with greater frequency over time.  My mother will send out a forwarded email (usually a joke, sometimes a large attachment of photos or PowerPoint).  A day later, my father will send out the same forwarded email. This has gotten so problematic, my brother has flagged both of our parents' addresses to spam  (which means I have to send him a note or call him if they have something important to say). 

I have previously taken my father to task about the content of his forwarded email, explaining it is inappropriate to send jokes about octogenarian Scrabble to his daughter.  However, now I need to find a polite way to let them both know their double-downing on email forwards is alienating behavior.

Suggestions?

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Stop doing the bolded/underlined. All you're doing there is allowing the situation to continue. If your brother misses something because he's blocked them, that's between him and them; by inserting yourself there you make yourself responsible for their communications which is always a bad idea.

If they are reasonable people then "Please stop with the duplicated forwards; it's filling my inbox and I may well miss important things in all the noise. I'd hate to miss out on Aunt Gertrude's eleventy first birthday because of that."

If they aren't reasonable, then there are no magic words that will get what you want without pain and anguish, so you have to decide which is more important, harmony or an uncluttered inbox.

JacklynHyde:
Sadly, this is going to be painful or they're going to wind up in spam.  Mom sent me a forward last night that was flagrantly untrue, and I responded with a Snopes link refuting it.  Her answer?  She doesn't trust Snopes and their "research".  Okay, then.

Iris:

--- Quote from: JacklynHyde on May 24, 2013, 04:19:50 PM ---Sadly, this is going to be painful or they're going to wind up in spam.  Mom sent me a forward last night that was flagrantly untrue, and I responded with a Snopes link refuting it.  Her answer?  She doesn't trust Snopes and their "research".  Okay, then.

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That one always makes me laugh. Don't you know that a random stranger on the internet is MUCH more reliable than any other credible source?  ;D

On the OP, personally, I would just go with a PP's suggestion to just delete anything that is a forward and only read personal messages. I would also stop translating for your brother. If he misses something it's his own fault, you are not his social secretary.

JoW:
I have a similar problem with my mother.   She sends me articles from on-line newspaperss.  My e-mail program allows me to set up "rules".  I have rules that send her newspaper articles to the trash as they arrive.  I'm about to do the same with messages that start with "fw:fw:"  That way I'll still get real news from her, but not editiorials from the New York Times and updates on life events of distant relatives I've never met.

checkitnice:
Suggest to your brother that he modify his filter to only exclude their emails that contain "fw" in the subject.  And then do the same for yourself.  I did it with my father's email address YEARS ago and it's been so nice.  He'll occasionally ask me if I got something, and I just say "nope" and beandip.

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