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No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« on: May 21, 2013, 01:13:35 PM »
 I came across this article and for the most part I thought it was funny but # 10 makes me wonder if the father of  the little boy was rude to send out the letter and request that  his son get the toy for Halloween .  I don;t actually think he's rude I thought it was kind of sweet but I would be interested in hearing other's opinions. 

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #1 on: May 21, 2013, 01:20:44 PM »
I don't think it's rude, but he might be better off going door to door in person. If for no other reason than to give them a face to remember.

I hope several of their neighbors were willing to help out. It sounds like the dad is really trying to keep things as "normal" for Fletcher as possible.
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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #2 on: May 21, 2013, 01:24:45 PM »
Not sure. It kind of assumes people will be home and participating, doesn't it? I am also thinking there is a likelihood of more than one kid dressed as an angry bird so you would still have to ask for names. Then a kid  getting candy might see the toy and reqiest one...

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #3 on: May 21, 2013, 01:29:26 PM »
I think overall the idea is okay. I do think it was asking too much for them to call him so he could retrieve the toy if they arenít going to be handing out candy. I agree with Moray that door-to-door might have been better, with the bonus of him being able to check if they are participating.

I guess itís a nice idea with too many logistical issues that could turn it bad very quickly.


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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #4 on: May 21, 2013, 01:29:39 PM »
I think this is incredibly sweet.  Fletcher's dad isn't asking anyone to go out and buy special treats for Fletcher - he's providing them himself.  Fletcher gets to enjoy himself with his friends, but doesn't feel "singled out" as "the kid who can't get candy".  This is a good daddy.

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #5 on: May 21, 2013, 01:31:56 PM »
Not sure. It kind of assumes people will be home and participating, doesn't it? I am also thinking there is a likelihood of more than one kid dressed as an angry bird so you would still have to ask for names. Then a kid  getting candy might see the toy and reqiest one...

It does state that if you aren't going to be participating to call and that he will introduce himself.

I think it is kinda sweet and would definitely go along with it. About other kids seeing it... didn't think of that

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #6 on: May 21, 2013, 01:37:03 PM »
But that is also participation in a way. I think he is a loving dad but if somebody else has their own stuff going on or their own feelings about the holiday the shouldn't feel obligated to call him, kwim?

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #7 on: May 21, 2013, 01:37:58 PM »
I think it's really sweet and the parents provided the toy and didn't ask that neighbors go do anything special, spend extra money, or whatnot.

Not sure. It kind of assumes people will be home and participating, doesn't it? I am also thinking there is a likelihood of more than one kid dressed as an angry bird so you would still have to ask for names. Then a kid  getting candy might see the toy and reqiest one...

I guess it would be a chance one would have to take.  I don't know how the trick-or-treat works in your neighborhood.  We have a TON of kids and lots of trick-or-treaters.  Granted, there are people who are not home or do not participate, but for me, the hit and miss would be workable and probably successful.  I would probably be able to talk face-to-face with a lot of the parents on the street.  My elementary school is walking distance, so there's a fair amount of parental interaction.  I could see this being successful in my area, but yes, there are logistical issues.   :) 

I don't see the toy vs candy being an issue.  Nobody really sees what ends up in the bag and I think they would prefer the candy.  One year we had a lady handing out full sized candy bars.  The thrill!!

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2013, 01:38:22 PM »
I would gladly help out with a request like that, but I love Halloween and trick-or-treating. I do think delivering them in person would be nice so people can just decline then, but maybe he didn't want them to feel pressured to give an immediate answer? I know my girlfriend would feel more like she could say no easier if she could think on it for a while instead of feeling the need to give an answer right then.

And I have to say I love the baby/dad Halloween costume on the list.


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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #9 on: May 21, 2013, 01:41:38 PM »
I would gladly help out with a request like that, but I love Halloween and trick-or-treating. I do think delivering them in person would be nice so people can just decline then, but maybe he didn't want them to feel pressured to give an immediate answer? I know my girlfriend would feel more like she could say no easier if she could think on it for a while instead of feeling the need to give an answer right then.

And I have to say I love the baby/dad Halloween costume on the list.

I completely agree with the sentiment. We don't really do Halloween much here, but if we did, I'd be more than happy to help this man and his son to have a great experience on the day.
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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #10 on: May 21, 2013, 02:20:03 PM »
I think it's wonderful.  And I'd be more than happy to help out if I were one of the neighbors.

And some of those had me, literally, laughing out loud! :D


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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #11 on: May 21, 2013, 02:22:18 PM »
If I got one of those notes, I'd think the dad was doing what he could, in a way that requires very little of me to help his son have a 'normal' experience. I'd be happy to help.

It is much harder when, on-the-spot, I've been asked for non-candy for a child (I've scrambled to pull out a novelty pencil or eraser from my son's stash), or for something gluten-free. I like that the dad is preparing his neighbors to help him out at no cost and hardly any inconvenience to them.

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #12 on: May 21, 2013, 02:37:37 PM »
If I got one of those notes, I'd think the dad was doing what he could, in a way that requires very little of me to help his son have a 'normal' experience. I'd be happy to help.

It is much harder when, on-the-spot, I've been asked for non-candy for a child (I've scrambled to pull out a novelty pencil or eraser from my son's stash), or for something gluten-free. I like that the dad is preparing his neighbors to help him out at no cost and hardly any inconvenience to them.

This. I think he sounds like an awesome dad, and he made an effort to be as non-obtrusive as possible. I enjoy handing out candy on halloween and would have no problem helping this dad out.
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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #13 on: May 21, 2013, 02:38:38 PM »
It's not like he is expecting people to go out and but toys either. In the letter it says he attached them so I don't see anything over the top wrong with this situation.

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Re: No candy for my kid instead give him "this"
« Reply #14 on: May 21, 2013, 02:40:41 PM »
I don't think it was rude. He was doing everything he could to make this the least bit of a hassle possible. When I first read the thread I thought he was asking people to provide their own toys- THAT would have been rude.