They are official engaged, well, the posted a photo of the ring on Facebook. I'm not sure if my brother knows I'm engaged too, but my mum probably told him.
My ex and I are on good terms, still friends. We are divorced, it was finalised in March, it was an amicable split. I can't see why my brother wouldn't invite him, he is the father of his nieces and nephews.
The children are 10, 8, 7, 5 and 3(nearly 4).
The family disharmony has been round for a while. My brother and I have never seen eye to eye. My mum spent years trying to talking me into having the family she thought was best (as in only have one child, then two, she tried talking my ex in to getting a vasectomy after our 2nd was born) she was against the home education. She blamed herself when it became public I have an alternative view of relationship structure. It's nothing to do with her, it's who I am.
She is known for guilt tripping me. I won't allow her to do that anymore.
When it comes to it, If my brother or his fiancée ask the children to change their hair, I will ask them if they want to, if they don't, the won't have to. If they invite my ex, but not my fiancé, I will decline my invitation, but the ex can take the kids.
It could turn out to be an interesting few months! And I aim to keep a calm polite attitude and just get on living my life for me, my children and my fiancé.