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« Reply #1335 on: December 13, 2013, 10:06:18 AM »
You know, I sometimes think I can't be surprised anymore... and then I am :) That is the strangest thing I've ever heard. Hormones in your hair?!

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« Reply #1336 on: December 13, 2013, 10:15:58 AM »
OSUJillyBean, buy your MIL a middle-school level book on the human body for Christmas.  She appears to need it.

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« Reply #1337 on: December 13, 2013, 10:18:46 AM »
Most folk remedies were created before people knew about "hormones". But I suppose there was a lot of pseudoscientific stuff since then that she might have picked up on.

Still, it's pretty bizarre, even for an "I read it in the Midnight Enquirer" sort of remedy. Why would you have hormones in your hair? How would removing them from there have any effect on the rest of your body?

There was an Agatha Christie book that I read once where criminals were trying to trick the gullible.  They did this by having two tactics.  The first was that they pretended to hold something like a seance that would use black magic to cause something.  But then there was also, slightly hidden, a machine full of whirling gizmos and weird things.  The idea was that if somebody was skeptical of the black magic stuff, he might go investigating.  And if he went investigating, he'd find the gizmo.  And then he might think that there was some scientific cause for the event, electromagnetic waves or something like that.  In reality, the cause was something completely normal and human, but they were hiding it by controlling what people thought in two different ways... one for people who would believe in black magic or witchcraft, the other for people who would believe in science.  You can use all sorts of ways to convince people of stuff, depending on whether they're more likely to believe something that sounds scientific, or something that sounds folksy and time-tested, or whatever.  That said, I've never heard this hair washing thing.  I wonder if she's confusing hormones with pheromones?  You people make me so grateful for my MIL.  :)
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« Reply #1338 on: December 13, 2013, 10:21:41 AM »
Maybe tell her that hair is dead and therefore the hormones in hair (?) are dead too?

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« Reply #1339 on: December 13, 2013, 10:27:31 AM »
I also feel compelled to mention that this is the woman who, when riding in my car with me to go to lunch, refused to put on her seatbelt.  We have a click-it-or-ticket law in my state so I simply put it in park and told her I wouldn't be driving anywhere until she buckled in.  Is seatbelt safety optional in her mind?  I thought this was something everybody learned when you outgrew your carseat/booster seats?

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« Reply #1340 on: December 13, 2013, 10:34:20 AM »
Luci, it's not just the midwest.  I'm on the east coast and I speak in time, not distance.  I live 40 miles from DC.  That trip can take 40 min, 1 hour, 2 hours, or 3 hours depending on traffic

I'm in the midwest, and I say distance by time, taking into account traffic. For example, going from work to BF's house is either a 20 minute trip or a 45 minute trip, depending on how soon I get out of work. So if someone is asking directions to something near there, I'll ask when they're going to tell them how far it is.

I wish I could get it into people's heads that the whole "Age is just a number" mindset can be highly insulting. Last year, people weren't sure I was old enough to drink wine (I was 27...) and this year I'm talking about my arthritis. Age is just a number, yes, but telling me to my face that I'm too young for that sort of thing really does hurt, especially since I was diagnosed in middle school for my knee, and that sort of thing doesn't just go away when you graduate high school. Since, you know, you're too young for that.

Yes, age is a number, and I look and act younger than I actually am, but my body is falling apart faster than it should. Please refrain from commenting on how I must be exaggerating or making it up (yes, I've been told that) or I'm too young for it. Obviously I'm not.

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« Reply #1341 on: December 13, 2013, 10:36:04 AM »
I also feel compelled to mention that this is the woman who, when riding in my car with me to go to lunch, refused to put on her seatbelt.  We have a click-it-or-ticket law in my state so I simply put it in park and told her I wouldn't be driving anywhere until she buckled in.  Is seatbelt safety optional in her mind?  I thought this was something everybody learned when you outgrew your carseat/booster seats?

Carseat? Booster seat? What are these things (says myself, from a 1960s perspective)? Doesn't everyone just pile the kids in the back seat, and let them rattle around like popcorn?

I don't know how old your MIL is, but it's quite possible she remembers seatbelts as being optional as a child, and has never really processed that they are no longer a choice.
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« Reply #1342 on: December 13, 2013, 10:39:43 AM »
I also feel compelled to mention that this is the woman who, when riding in my car with me to go to lunch, refused to put on her seatbelt.  We have a click-it-or-ticket law in my state so I simply put it in park and told her I wouldn't be driving anywhere until she buckled in.  Is seatbelt safety optional in her mind?  I thought this was something everybody learned when you outgrew your carseat/booster seats?

Carseat? Booster seat? What are these things (says myself, from a 1960s perspective)? Doesn't everyone just pile the kids in the back seat, and let them rattle around like popcorn?

I don't know how old your MIL is, but it's quite possible she remembers seatbelts as being optional as a child, and has never really processed that they are no longer a choice.

My great grandma never wore a seatbelt. She was convinced to the day she died that it would kill her in a crash. But in order to not get a ticket, she'd strap it over her waist and shoulder and hold it so it looked like she was wearing it.

Everyone in the family gave up on trying to convince her of how important it was before I was even born. She had her very strong opinion on it, and it wasn't going to change, regardless of anything else anyone said. But she was considerate enough to fool the police officers on the road so she and/or the driver wouldn't have to pay a ticket for it.

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« Reply #1343 on: December 13, 2013, 11:13:54 AM »
I also feel compelled to mention that this is the woman who, when riding in my car with me to go to lunch, refused to put on her seatbelt.  We have a click-it-or-ticket law in my state so I simply put it in park and told her I wouldn't be driving anywhere until she buckled in.  Is seatbelt safety optional in her mind?  I thought this was something everybody learned when you outgrew your carseat/booster seats?

Carseat? Booster seat? What are these things (says myself, from a 1960s perspective)? Doesn't everyone just pile the kids in the back seat, and let them rattle around like popcorn?

I don't know how old your MIL is, but it's quite possible she remembers seatbelts as being optional as a child, and has never really processed that they are no longer a choice.

MIL is about 65 and I assumed they had some form of baby safety devices in her youth, even if they've changed drastically over the years.  How else did you transport infants and toddlers around in the 1950s/60s?  ???  (I am sorry but I freely admit I am ignorant of vintage safety devices).

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« Reply #1344 on: December 13, 2013, 11:22:39 AM »
Luci, it's not just the midwest.  I'm on the east coast and I speak in time, not distance.  I live 40 miles from DC.  That trip can take 40 min, 1 hour, 2 hours, or 3 hours depending on traffic

I'm in the midwest, and I say distance by time, taking into account traffic. For example, going from work to BF's house is either a 20 minute trip or a 45 minute trip, depending on how soon I get out of work. So if someone is asking directions to something near there, I'll ask when they're going to tell them how far it is.

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I got into the habit of stating distance by time because metric was phased in just before I was born. There are a lot of people who still use miles as the default measure (aided by the fact that locally the roads are set out in a grid pattern at one-mile intervals), so I grew up with some people understanding miles, some kilometers, and me being confused. "Fifteen minutes" is still a scale everyone understands.

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« Reply #1345 on: December 13, 2013, 11:27:57 AM »
MIL is about 65 and I assumed they had some form of baby safety devices in her youth, even if they've changed drastically over the years.  How else did you transport infants and toddlers around in the 1950s/60s?  ???  (I am sorry but I freely admit I am ignorant of vintage safety devices).

The earliest "child seat" that was designed for safety was manufactured in 1962 (according to wikipedia).  We never had anything like it  - didn't even have seat belts until dad bought the Olds in 1964. 

Babies were carried in someones arms, seat belts were optional.

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« Reply #1346 on: December 13, 2013, 11:56:04 AM »
I'm 28. My "going home from hospital" photo shows me loosely (barely) strapped into a seat MUCH too big; I'm certain I had rattling around bruises by the time we got home. Once I outgrew my baby seat, I remember seat belts as very optional until I was about 12. Fond memories of sitting cross legged in the back of an empty van with friends and cousins inserted here.

I'm not saying that's standard at all, but yes there are a LOT of adults in my area raised with that mindset, some of us are pretty young.

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« Reply #1347 on: December 13, 2013, 12:00:12 PM »
As Zyrs said, babies usually rode in the passenger's lap.  If Mom (or Dad) was driving alone, you laid them on the seat next to you and held them in place when you came to a stop.  (Well, at least you tried.)

There were bassinetty like things that went into the back seat for a very small baby to ride in and car seats for older babies who could sit up, but they were not really designed for safety other than keeping the child more or less in one spot so they couldn't be climbing all over the driver.

The newer 'safety' versions just came out right before our last child was born in 1973.  The hospital required you to have one in your car and put the baby in it before they would let you leave the hospital with your baby! 

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« Reply #1348 on: December 13, 2013, 12:16:52 PM »
My mom's friend--60ish--went on a trip to the American Southwest and exclaimed, "It's so weird, they have all these places with 'butt' in the name!" People in the Southwest probably get that a lot.

FTR, the word is "butte" as in Butte, Montana or Red Butte or Elephant Butte. It's pronounced byoot, like if you were saying "beautiful" but just used the first syllable. It's a geographic feature, one of those iconic straight-sided, flat-topped hills they have in the American West and Southwest. Personally I would expect an adult American to have picked up on that by now, from the movies if nothing else.

Further to this topic -- I must really have far too much time on my hands.  Have conceived of a bit of tri-national wordplay, as follows.

I understand that in Australian slang, the first syllable of the word "beautiful" is used as an adjective meaning -- well -- "beautiful", or at any rate, something to be approved of.

A member of the Scottish nobility, is the Marquess of Bute (pronounced as above, "byoot"), whose lands include the island of Bute, located to the west of Glasgow; reputedly a very pretty place.

A scenario is envisaged, of a traveller who has spent time in Australia, and the West of the USA, being a guest of the Marquess, and being shown by him, around the eponymous island.  They arrive at the base of a picturesque straight-sided, flat-topped hill.  The visitor remarks: "Hey, that's a beaut Bute butte, Bute !"


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« Reply #1349 on: December 13, 2013, 12:18:25 PM »
Born in 1968.  There is a picture of me coming home from the hospital, in my mother's arms in the front seat.  In the early 70s, we were driving an old '58 Chev that didn't have seatbelts!  We had a station wagon after that and for long trips, I got the back seat, my brother got the very back.  Kept us from fighting.   ;D  It had seatbelts but we didn't have to wear them.  The seatbelt law came into place in the late 70s, early 80s, I think.  I used to wear mine when I was awake but I'd take it off to lie down on the seat and sleep.  One trip, I fell asleep with the belt still on.  Good thing, because I woke to my father talking to the nice policeman out the window as he was being given a speeding ticket!   :)
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