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Re: An Adult Should Really Know This - Silly Things You've Had to Tell People
« Reply #1560 on: December 24, 2013, 10:28:02 AM »
When I was about 40 I had to explain to a 40-year old friend that women bleed for several weeks after childbirth because of the increased blood volume during pregnancy.  Neither of us had ever had a full term pregnancy but you'd think she would have read Our Bodies, Ourselves or The Ms Guide to a Woman's Health back in the day.

I don't think that's especially common knowledge for people who haven't had babies.

I had never heard of it before!

Me either. I'm almost 40.
And not all women do. I stopped spotting within a few days.
Another 40 year old who didn't know. It 's one of those things I'd expect to learn from my OB/ GYN if I were pregnant.

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« Reply #1561 on: December 24, 2013, 10:32:07 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

My mother heard the same thing.  That's why there is 11 months between my sister and my older brother. 

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« Reply #1562 on: December 24, 2013, 10:32:38 AM »
Another thing that can render the pill ineffective are some herbal remedies - my pharmacist flipped out when I filled my birth control and tried to buy a brand of "natural" cough drops. 

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« Reply #1563 on: December 24, 2013, 11:03:35 AM »
When I was about 40 I had to explain to a 40-year old friend that women bleed for several weeks after childbirth because of the increased blood volume during pregnancy.  Neither of us had ever had a full term pregnancy but you'd think she would have read Our Bodies, Ourselves or The Ms Guide to a Woman's Health back in the day.

I don't think that's especially common knowledge for people who haven't had babies.

I had never heard of it before!

Me either. I'm almost 40.
And not all women do. I stopped spotting within a few days.
 

I did too (stopped spotting within a few days).  I've honestly never known anyone who bled for weeks!   :o

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« Reply #1564 on: December 24, 2013, 11:14:53 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

Oh dear... so many mothers believe this, and yet every single doctor tells you this isn't true, drives me batty.

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« Reply #1565 on: December 24, 2013, 11:18:31 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

Oh dear... so many mothers believe this, and yet every single doctor tells you this isn't true, drives me batty.

Even better (?) is my friend. Whited out for sad events.

She got pregnant, had a miscarriage, and in her grief went back to him. Thought that because she had just been pregnant, she couldn't get pregnant again. Got pregnant again, didn't know it until she was nearly 5 months along, and had another miscarriage because she wasn't properly controlling her diabetes while pregnant.

Yes, it's dangerous to go off of folk knowledge for contraceptive purposes.

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« Reply #1566 on: December 24, 2013, 11:35:06 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

That's quite an image I got there!

BAHAHAHAA!

I have a friend who had baby #2 that way, as well.
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« Reply #1567 on: December 24, 2013, 11:43:57 AM »
Lil Sis got "the kissing disease" when someone borrowed her clarinet mouthpiece without asking, without cleaning it up afterward, and without changing the reed...at least, that's the only explanation that anyone could come up with, as her clarinet case stayed in the band hall instead of being carried around the school or put into her (too small) locker. 

Most of the kids left their instruments in the band hall at the time (1970s) - not just the ones with instruments that wouldn't fit in anyone's locker at school (tuba, trombone, French horn, and the like come to mind).  It was just "easier". 

But she didn't think about cleaning her mouthpiece or changing reeds before starting to play - because she didn't realize that someone else had used it until she already had it in her mouth & realized that it was "too damp" based on when she'd last played it...too late.

Glandular fever/Mono is saliva-transmitted.  It is most easily transmitted via kissing but you don't need a contamination story to justify contracting it. You can just get it by sharing airspace near an infected person by way of airborne droplets.  Best not to think about that concept too much.

True - if anyone sneezed near a damp mouthpiece (while it was out of the mouth for even a few moments between clarinet parts or running scales) - the droplets could have contaminated a damp reed enough to pass it along to her, even if she hadn't been breathing contaminated air....

But they did catch someone red handed (Genetian Violet dried on a wallet and the few $1 bills in it) later that year stealing money - so the story might have spread about the instruments being used by someone.  It's been almost forty years ago - amazing how much MORE we know about disease now than then...and usually the kind of thing that means something is a lot more contagious than originally thought....
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« Reply #1568 on: December 24, 2013, 11:52:35 AM »
Hee hee, RingTailedLemur

The weird thing is, my friend is one of the most intelligent people I know, but she is remarkably ignorant/na´ve about some fundamental things.   The breastfeeding = contraception idea was just one of them.

She was a bit odd while she was pregnant with Son #2, but this might've just been baby brain - she was absolutely convinced that she was having a girl.  She hadn't had an ultrasound or anything - she was just sure.  Every time she referred to the baby, she said "she".  She had only girls' names picked out.  She started asking around for used baby girl clothes.  When Son #2 was born, she was flabbergasted.

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« Reply #1569 on: December 24, 2013, 11:53:02 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

That's quite an image I got there!

BAHAHAHAA!

I have a friend who had baby #2 that way, as well.

Also that they are serious when they tell you oral contraceptives need to be taken consistently and that even missing a day or two can make them ineffective.

The six year age gap between my two youngest attests to that.   ;)
Eta I think this something an adult who is taking oral contraceptives should know not just any adult.  That said I did know and was still not as carful as I should have been
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« Reply #1570 on: December 24, 2013, 11:55:50 AM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

I knew that, and I ended up getting pregnant, but I also picked up a nasty virus of some kind in the first six weeks and lost the baby about the third month....so...

Mom was a science teacher and kept insisting that she'd told me "stuff" - but I have come to the conclusion that she might have told me "stuff" at a level that was years in advance of my understanding.  Because there were things that I might have been told but I didn't *know* it until I was in college or a mother myself, no reference to how to use the "stuff" Mom had told me at two, five, or ten was given with the information about "stuff".

It might have been as random as cake rising due to carbon dioxide bubbles forming when baking soda or powder came in contact with heat & moisture or something more esoteric.  Like what epilepsy & its symptoms meant....in terms of someone not being able to drive, at risk of falling down in a seizure, etc. 
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« Reply #1571 on: December 24, 2013, 12:24:28 PM »
When I was about 40 I had to explain to a 40-year old friend that women bleed for several weeks after childbirth because of the increased blood volume during pregnancy.  Neither of us had ever had a full term pregnancy but you'd think she would have read Our Bodies, Ourselves or The Ms Guide to a Woman's Health back in the day.

I don't think that's especially common knowledge for people who haven't had babies.

I had never heard of it before!

Me either. I'm almost 40.
And not all women do. I stopped spotting within a few days.
 

I did too (stopped spotting within a few days).  I've honestly never known anyone who bled for weeks!   :o

I did.  Got over it, though.
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« Reply #1572 on: December 24, 2013, 12:31:10 PM »
I had Mono last summer, and I have NO idea about the source of infection.  Granted, I ALSO had Lyme disease at the same time, so possibly it happened via a weakened immune system and some type of public  contact.

I did some research on Mono, and it seems that MANY people contract it during their lives and never know they have had it.  In its mild form, the symptoms are much like a  cold or flu.  And since it is a virus, antibiotics don't work, and you have to tough it out.  OTOH, one exposure confers later immunity.

Lyme disease, OTOH...well, let's say I am paranoid about walking in weeds these days.  Second sickest I have ever been in my life. other than the Mystery Bug I had in 1997 (13 days in hospital).  And my NP now thinks that maybe that was Lyme disease too - it wasn't tested for back then.
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« Reply #1573 on: December 24, 2013, 12:41:32 PM »
Speaking of contraception, I don't think I've mentioned this before - a friend of mine thought that she was safe from pregnancy while she was breastfeeding her firstborn.  She was astonished when she got pregnant with Son #2 when Son #1 was less than a year old.  She asked me "Did you know you could get pregnant while you're breastfeeding?"  Bemused, I said "Uh, I never thought about it, but I would have thought it was possible, yes."  "Oh.  Well, I didn't."

(To be fair, my understanding is that breastfeeding makes it LESS likely for you to get pregnant - it's your body's way of trying to make sure you don't have too many babies too quickly.  It's by no means foolproof, though.)

I am one of those (lucky?) women for whom this *is* the case.  I like to try to breastfeed for the first year (12 months).  My first three kids are all 21 months apart.  You can do the math.  :)

I think the bleeding after childbirth is something that can really vary woman to woman, and I think it's most extreme with the first baby?  With my first, I know that I was concerned because they said if it continued past 6 weeks, call your doctor, and I was running right up against that timetable when it finally stopped.  With my third, I don't think it continued past the two days in the hospital.  So, yeah, it can vary a lot, even for the same person.

I wouldn't consider either of those something "any adult should know," though.  I think they *are* something that "any woman should be told by her doctor," at least if they're relevant.  I was really annoyed when I decided to try Depo Provera once, and only *after* I got the shot did they mention, "Oh, by the way, this can lead to bone density problems and make your bones really brittle, so take a calcium supplement and you can only take this for two years," and I thought that was really inappropriate.  Not to mention that they didn't tell you it can cause a perpetual period that lasts for months.  Thanks, military medicine, great job there.
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« Reply #1574 on: December 24, 2013, 12:46:30 PM »
I did some research on Mono, and it seems that MANY people contract it during their lives and never know they have had it.  In its mild form, the symptoms are much like a  cold or flu.  And since it is a virus, antibiotics don't work, and you have to tough it out.  OTOH, one exposure confers later immunity.

Unless, of course, you're me. Had it when I was 12, and again in college. UGH.
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