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Re: An Adult Should Really Know This - Silly Things You've Had to Tell People
« Reply #1275 on: December 09, 2013, 02:21:40 PM »
I knew someone from a very posh family where all the children would get fancy Victorian-sounding first names and plain middle names. You'd get Montague Ben [Surname], Benedict Tom [Surname], Archibald Greg [Surname], etc.

It was standard that they'd never actually go by the first name. Instead of Archibald Greg [Surname] being called "Archie", he'd always be called "Greg" from birth, and the "Archibald" bit was only for official stuff on paper to make him sound posher. Maybe it worked way back when, but all the ones I knew would always just write, "A. Greg [Surname]" when it was needed and leave it at that. Excepting passports and voting, I don't think they ever used their first names at all.

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« Reply #1276 on: December 09, 2013, 03:51:08 PM »
One of my friends at work retired recently.  His name was Douglas, but he always went by his middle name, which was Larry.  When it came time for the Big Boss to make a speech about Larry, he constantly referred to him as "Douglas".  It wouldn't have mattered, except that this boss tried to pass himself off as a pal of the retiree (he's one of those bosses who likes to think that he's everybody's friend).

Hee hee! I shouldn't laugh at this, but it's somewhat karmic. I had a woman once make a similar kind of speech about me, and although she went on and on about all the good times we'd had together (I barely knew her), she pronounced my surname a different way each and every time she said it over the ten minutes. Even the people who knew neither of us were made aware that she was making stuff up.

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« Reply #1277 on: December 09, 2013, 09:30:56 PM »
I think in general people are more flexible over how they chose to name their children. One of my aunts kept her own name when she married - the children (one born before they married, one after) both have her surname, no that of my uncle. And I've met quite a lot of people who either have daughters taking mother's name and sons taking father's name, or simply alternating

I mentioned this earlier, but my friend and her husband have two children (both born after they were married). The first child has the father's last name and the second child has the mother's last name. (My friend did not change her name upon marriage.) So the parents are Amy Adams and Bob Barker, and the kids are Carl Barker and David Adams. Thus two people in the household are Adams and two are Barker.

Personally I'm not a big fan... There's so many situations now where the names are just inherently complex (blended families, for example), it seems silly to me to intentionally create complexity. But, on the other hand, I think it's more of a personal preference, definitely not rising to the level of naming your kid Felon (in an English-speaking place) or something like that.

Friends of mine did this and the other parent's last name is the middle name. Son has dad's last name and daughter has mums.

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« Reply #1278 on: December 09, 2013, 10:36:24 PM »
On the middle name/nickname thing - I was known by my family nickname by nearly everybody until my mid-30's.  Didn't really use my full name until about then for much but legal paperwork.  My husband is known ONLY by him middle name, and a diminutive of it.  He has never ever used his first name that I'm aware of, not even as a little boy.  So, our wedding presents were instantly identifiable as to what side of us they came from - gifts from his side were addressed to "DH's middle name and my full name" and gifts from my side were addressed to "My nickname and DH's first name".  Only his immediate family used both family names.  It had us laughing the day we opened everything.
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« Reply #1279 on: December 10, 2013, 01:38:55 AM »
Ereine, iridaceae: thanks for the thoughts.  My impression (based on no deep knowledge) about Scandinavian countries and languages, is that names ending in -a are more likely to be female there, than male: but I could be making an "interesting assumption".

"More likely" is true - at least for Denmark. I know of one traditional Danish male name that ends with an 'a'. But at least one exists, and there may be even more in the other Scandinavian countries. So I'd agree to "more likely" but not "solely". :)
 
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« Reply #1280 on: December 10, 2013, 08:43:20 AM »
Ereine, iridaceae: thanks for the thoughts.  My impression (based on no deep knowledge) about Scandinavian countries and languages, is that names ending in -a are more likely to be female there, than male: but I could be making an "interesting assumption".

"More likely" is true - at least for Denmark. I know of one traditional Danish male name that ends with an 'a'. But at least one exists, and there may be even more in the other Scandinavian countries. So I'd agree to "more likely" but not "solely". :)

"More likely" might also apply in Japan where it seems all female names end in '-ko'. Yoko, Mitsuko, etc. I know there may be other suffixes but I read of so many ending in 'ko' that it seems like they're all named '-ko'.

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« Reply #1281 on: December 10, 2013, 08:51:51 AM »
bloo wrote:

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"More likely" might also apply in Japan where it seems all female names end in '-ko'. Yoko, Mitsuko, etc. I know there may be other suffixes but I read of so many ending in 'ko' that it seems like they're all named '-ko'."

At least one not-ko that popped into my head (mostly because Westerners tend to find it difficult to picture as a female name) is Hideo.  You're right, though, that -ko is a lot like -a in America, where the vast majority of names ending that way are feminine.

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« Reply #1282 on: December 10, 2013, 09:12:46 AM »
"More likely" might also apply in Japan where it seems all female names end in '-ko'. Yoko, Mitsuko, etc. I know there may be other suffixes but I read of so many ending in 'ko' that it seems like they're all named '-ko'.

Not all, but a lot, yes. The official numbers say it's at the end of about a third of all Japanese female names. It's just a common feminine suffix, like "-ette" in English. "-ko" is more common in Japanese than "-ette" in English, of course, but it's hardly ubiquitous. "-a" is another common feminine ending in English names, because in Latin (and possibly Greek, but I might be wrong here) it almost always denoted feminine gender for a noun. We don't have gendered nouns in English much anymore, though, except for things like boats and ships and sometimes countries.

"-ette" basically has connotations of small and dainty (originally "diminutive"), which was traditionally considered suitable for women, hence it's use in names. "-ko" means "small child", which is pretty similar. It's kanji 子 actually looks rather obviously like a small child with outstretched arms and a trianglely-shape for a head, which is kind of nice, because a lot of kanji are so abstracted or altered that you can't easily rely on them having a similarity to what they're supposed to represent.

Incidentally, "-taro" is a common male suffix in Japanese, and it can even be a whole name by itself. "Yamada Taro" is Japan's "John Smith". I know a few Kentaro, Jotaro, Shintaro, etc.

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« Reply #1283 on: December 10, 2013, 09:38:05 AM »
"More likely" might also apply in Japan where it seems all female names end in '-ko'. Yoko, Mitsuko, etc. I know there may be other suffixes but I read of so many ending in 'ko' that it seems like they're all named '-ko'.

Not all, but a lot, yes. The official numbers say it's at the end of about a third of all Japanese female names. It's just a common feminine suffix, like "-ette" in English. "-ko" is more common in Japanese than "-ette" in English, of course, but it's hardly ubiquitous. "-a" is another common feminine ending in English names, because in Latin (and possibly Greek, but I might be wrong here) it almost always denoted feminine gender for a noun. We don't have gendered nouns in English much anymore, though, except for things like boats and ships and sometimes countries.

"-ette" basically has connotations of small and dainty (originally "diminutive"), which was traditionally considered suitable for women, hence it's use in names. "-ko" means "small child", which is pretty similar. It's kanji 子 actually looks rather obviously like a small child with outstretched arms and a trianglely-shape for a head, which is kind of nice, because a lot of kanji are so abstracted or altered that you can't easily rely on them having a similarity to what they're supposed to represent.

Incidentally, "-taro" is a common male suffix in Japanese, and it can even be a whole name by itself. "Yamada Taro" is Japan's "John Smith". I know a few Kentaro, Jotaro, Shintaro, etc.

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« Reply #1284 on: December 10, 2013, 10:27:01 AM »
On the subject of both names, and things I at least thought were common knowledge--one semester it seemed like all our college student interns went by "aliases." I actually used/saw their full names a lot as I filled out their paperwork, dealt with timesheets, etc.. The one we called Jenny was officially Jennifer--okay, that's easy enough. Tina was really Christina. Jack was really John. That's the one that threw a lot of people, native English speakers I mean (I could hardly expect someone just recently come to the US to figure that one out).

A number of names that started as nicknames have become full-fledged names in their own right, like Jack and Molly (from Mary), such that people are now quite surprised to see them used as, in fact, nicknames and not given names. I don't feel like Jack/John is that odd, though--I knew about it long before the intern, and my cousin named his child John with the intention of calling him Jack (he's about 4).

My personal favorite is Liam from William, which I think is where Liam Neeson's name comes from. We have so many people named William in my family, and no one ever goes for the nickname Liam, which would clear up considerable confusion. ::)
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« Reply #1285 on: December 10, 2013, 11:08:51 AM »
On the subject of both names, and things I at least thought were common knowledge--one semester it seemed like all our college student interns went by "aliases." I actually used/saw their full names a lot as I filled out their paperwork, dealt with timesheets, etc.. The one we called Jenny was officially Jennifer--okay, that's easy enough. Tina was really Christina. Jack was really John. That's the one that threw a lot of people, native English speakers I mean (I could hardly expect someone just recently come to the US to figure that one out).

A number of names that started as nicknames have become full-fledged names in their own right, like Jack and Molly (from Mary), such that people are now quite surprised to see them used as, in fact, nicknames and not given names. I don't feel like Jack/John is that odd, though--I knew about it long before the intern, and my cousin named his child John with the intention of calling him Jack (he's about 4).

My personal favorite is Liam from William, which I think is where Liam Neeson's name comes from. We have so many people named William in my family, and no one ever goes for the nickname Liam, which would clear up considerable confusion. ::)

I've known two Jacks who were really John, and one Jake who was technically John also, in Australia. I didn't realise this was odd to native English speakers!

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« Reply #1286 on: December 10, 2013, 01:01:30 PM »
I've known two Jacks who were really John, and one Jake who was technically John also, in Australia. I didn't realise this was odd to native English speakers!

Yeah, I sometimes forget what is common knowledge and what isn't, because I like names so much. I would've understood if the "young" people didn't realize Jack originated as a nickname for John, but I was surprised that the "older" people didn't realize it either--I tend to think that most younger Jacks are really Jack, while most older Jacks were really Johns. On the other hand if you always knew someone as Jack for 70 years maybe it didn't occur to you to think there was anything behind it.

The Jake for John is interesting. I would've guessed Jacob but it's not that far off. In my family history research I find a lot of girls named Jenny, which I thought was weird because I didn't think Jennifer was that old/common of a name. Then I read somewhere that Jenny was a common nickname for Jane, Jean, Joan... basically any girls' name with a J and an N in it. Of course Jane, Jean, and Joan all derive from John anyway, so it was sort of the female equivalent of Johnny I guess.
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« Reply #1287 on: December 10, 2013, 01:31:36 PM »
Since we've had pages of it, maybe the name discussion could get a spin-off?

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« Reply #1288 on: December 11, 2013, 06:32:39 AM »
I'm not sure if my expectations are too high with this one, but anyway...

I teach reading and phonics etc. and the number of parents who are unaware that teaching the sounds English letters make is important, useful, or even worthwhile. I've had a worryingly large number of kids come in who can name every letter on sight, but knows the sound of none of them, and whose parents insist that this is enough for the to read, so why aren't they??

One boy looked at the word "cat" and read it as "seeaytee". He added, "It must be a grown-up word, because I don't know what it means. A lot of words that get written down are grown-up words."

Is the notion that being aware that the letter B says a "b" sound (this is hard to type but you get my point) really entirely foreign? Most of the time, it's not just a case of the parent having not thought about it before. That's fine. It's more frequently a case of the parent vehemently arguing with me that I am not to teach their kids letter sounds because it's a waste of time, but I still must teach them to read phonetically somehow. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable here, but the parents who admit that their current way of teaching their kid has failed but still argue about how to teach phonics to a phonics teacher baffle me.

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« Reply #1289 on: December 11, 2013, 07:30:53 AM »
I don't think you can blame parents completely for children not knowing how to pronounce words, even simple words.  I was an early/advanced reader, and would often come up with the way words should sound.  I would then be shocked/confused that word I knew in "my head" was the same as this other word "in my ear."

Two examples
interesting: when I read this word, I thought it was pronounced "nernishing"
lb.: when I read this, instead of thinking pound, I would pronounce it "liblets", and I thought it was strange that there were two words for pounds. 

Of course, this makes no excuse for the parents yelling at you
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