She didn't leave the family. She got a divorce because she was unhappy. She is still their family.
Nobody can decide for her how soon after her divorce she can move on. She's divorced. She sounds like she struggled with that decision for a long time.
She is not obligated to stay in an unhappy marriage for her adult children's comfort.
She's being very dramatic and emotional right now. I'm just asking to look at the human aspect of it before telling her that her mother is obviously a bad person and she should wash her hands of her.
The mother can have a joyful time with her new man and his daughter. Her happiness in this new relationship
should not be impacted because her eldest daughter and her minor children have said they are not ready to meet her new love.
And per the bolded, no one is telling her to wash her hands of her permanently. Some of us are counseling her that she doesn't need to be pleading for her mother's attention, especially since she is the one who turned away from her daughter.
The daugher is the one who requested they meet and it was the mother who cancelled.
The mother is the one who decided to ignore her daughter's birthday while the daughter was trying to reach her mother several times.
I can not image what my DD would have to do that I would not acknowlege her birthday or even go a couple of weeks without trying to talk with her. And it sure the heck wouldn't be because she said she wasn't ready to meet the guy I'd been dating
for the last 3 months.
I normally don't get emotional about the posts I read on here because I always think there are two sides. But this situation makes me so mad I could spit. And while I'm at it, I'm not too happy with the OP's aunt who is still carrying pm a relationship
with the mother knowing how she is treating her daughter.