OP, I feel for you. Your mom is acting like a donkey and I would just let the relationship
be. I know I have been hopelessly in love before, but never to the point of alienating people as she has, but when this explodes (and I do not have high hopes for this relationship
) she will be crawling back. Not sure you should be there to catch her in that fall, but that will be up to you. Your mom (and her 'new' family
) cannot tell you how to feel and force anyone of the kids into this look at us relationship
. It is creepy to get texts from someone you don't even know that are that presumptuous.
I left my husband when my DD was 16 months, I did not date again til she was 4 and although she had met him (a neighbor) she had no idea we were dating
casually because I didn't feel ready to be in the type of relationship
where 3 of us would be involved. Her father on the other hand decided to sign up for a membership in the skank of the month club* pretty much right away. He rarely saw her (his choice) but every time she came back from a weekend there was always stories of outings with this woman or that woman and of course it was always someone new. I talked to him about it but he said as his DD, he wanted her to meet who ever was his partner at the time. I put my foot down and threatened he would never have her unsupervised again when the flavor of the week told her she had to call her mom
. I finally got a court order when I found out the one he was with had lost her nursing license due to a recent drug conviction
. My DD was upset at these visits as she had such rare visits that she didn't like sharing him with various women.
*One of the women who went on an outing with DD and ex was someone he picked up at a bar 2 nights before!