Apologies for the months of silence, unfortunately this story doesn't have a happy ending and I've been a bit too upset to come back and post an update.
I didn't reply to Robert and Ally, instead I called my mother and asked her if she would like to meet for coffee the next day as I wanted to have a chat (I felt a face to face meeting would be best to clear all of this up). I suggested a cafe or even my place as I thought it best that we had the discussion when Robert wasn't around (I didn't mention that to her though).
She said yes, however the next morning she texted me about 10 minutes before she was due to arrive and cancelled and suggested another time. I didn't hear from her for a week, although I texted her asking if we could reschedule. Finally after a week's silence I received the following voice message from her:
"Holly, I must say that I am throughly disappointed and upset with you. You were extremely rude to both Robert and Ally who were only trying to welcome you into our family with open arms. You need to stop being so dingdangity selfish and accept that they are a important part of my life now, I spent 24 years taking care of you and I deserve happiness. Robert has been good to me. He loves me and he takes care of me. He is a good person. I honestly can't believe my daughter is trying to deny me happiness"
Then she hung up.
I was really worried and I started thinking that Robert had forced her to say it so I went to check up on her, she wasn't home. So I called my Aunt Jane who said that mom was fine and having afternoon tea at hers.
I haven't heard a thing from Mom since then. It was my birthday on August 7 and I didn't hear anything from her. I texted her and emailed her for weeks begging to talk. I wasn't too sure if I should have given her space, but at the time I was trying to salvage our relationship
. Auntie Jane, my dad, my brother and sister have been supporting me through this and trying to persuade my mother to talk to me.
Naturally I'm a mess over this, but I'm trying to get on with my life best I can.
Auntie Jane is trying to talk to Mom again when she gets back from Hawaii next week, so hopefully we can resolve this peacefully.
Will update you all asap.