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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #30 on: June 10, 2013, 12:07:41 AM »

My mother used to use this reasoning on me when I wanted to stay home sick from school: "If you're sick enough to stay home, you're sick enough to stay in bed and not watch TV or read". It was her way of ascertaining whether I was genuinely sick or just trying to pull a fast one to get out of going to school. But as adults, this surely doesn't apply.

Either way, I don't see how it's rude to anyone?
Mine too. I still remember my sr. year in HS i came down with a nasty something or other. Fever, chills, coughing, sore throat, so bad I couldn't even lift my head off the pillow without the room spinning. Yet my mother still felt the need to tell me (at age 18) that I was NOT to get up and watch tv, but stay in bed. Ok sure mom, no problem.

I missed 3 days and on day 3 the school called (we didn't have any requirement that you had to have a parent call you out sick) to find out where I was.  I guess 3 days was the trigger. But they told me I sounded so awful they knew I wasn't faking it!

I used to do this with DSs.  Mostly because I would fake a stomach ache not to go to school, stay home and watch classic movies and read mysteries.

I have a staffer that is home with an infected spider bite.  If Facebook takes he mind off it good for her.

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #31 on: June 10, 2013, 04:37:43 AM »


I'm going to be odd man out-I do see the issue, although I most certainly wouldn't make a big deal about it if I saw someone using facebook while off sick. I just wouldn't do it myself.

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #32 on: June 10, 2013, 03:31:59 PM »
I think there's two separate issues here. 1) Does too sick to go to work mean you're too sick to go online? 2) Is it disrespectful to coworkers to post on Facebook where they can see?

I feel like pretty much everyone agrees that the answer 1) is no. Lots of examples given here of why that's not reasonable. Going online is very very low stress/energy. Also it could be an illness that's super contagious but isn't really debilitating. 2) I suppose is a bit more iffy. I don't really think it's an issue at all to post once or twice, especially a status like, 'I feel awful, going to spend the day playing Facebook games and marathoning Lost Girl'..if someone got iffy about that, that's just silly. But if someone were posting repeatedly, and perhaps seemed like they were just spending the day having a good time, that's maybe a bit unprofessional. Nothing really over the top, but maybe something that isn't the best choice overall?

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #33 on: June 10, 2013, 07:31:31 PM »
I got chicken pox when I was 37...this was pre-Facebook, but you can bet I spent my (miserable) days on the internet...playing games, blogging (main subject: THE ITCH MAKE IT STOP), and just generally trying to distract myself. 

So, yeah, I feel it's ok to Facebook while home sick, as long as you are actually home sick, and not 'home <wink> sick"


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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #34 on: June 10, 2013, 07:45:42 PM »
Better to play on FB when your home sick then when your healthy and at work  >:D

Heheheheh  ;D

I've definitely seen espoused on here before that too sick to work = too sick for FB/computer games. I am glad to see not all think that way. My job is pretty mentally taxing - i think i mentioned before that it used to be a regular occurance for the ambulance to show up for people who temporarily lost their minds (thank goodness that is not so common anymore), and medical leave for mental health is not at all uncommon. So, just because i don't feel like i can handle that does not mean i can't fling some birds and admin a Pokemon page  :)
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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #35 on: June 10, 2013, 09:22:23 PM »
Better to play on FB when your home sick then when your healthy and at work  >:D

Heheheheh  ;D

I've definitely seen espoused on here before that too sick to work = too sick for FB/computer games. I am glad to see not all think that way. My job is pretty mentally taxing - i think i mentioned before that it used to be a regular occurance for the ambulance to show up for people who temporarily lost their minds (thank goodness that is not so common anymore), and medical leave for mental health is not at all uncommon. So, just because i don't feel like i can handle that does not mean i can't fling some birds and admin a Pokemon page  :)

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #36 on: June 11, 2013, 07:26:25 PM »
I spent the better part of last year with an infection from hell.  Said infection caused 4 orthopedic surgeries and combined hospitalizations of over 2 months.  Of 8 of these months, I was hooked up to IV antibiotics.

Thank God for the computer or I would have gone stark raving mad.  My b/f bought me an iPad for Christmas (right after my first surgery) and I was too out of it to be able to learn how to use it for about the first week or so.  But afterwards, it was the one way I had of amusing myself without needing to think too much.  Hospital TV is lousy, and reading is difficult when drugs you are taking give you the attention span of a gnat.  With social media, you can be as involved or not as you wish.

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #37 on: June 14, 2013, 04:55:02 PM »
In my job, sickness is taken seriously. We don't have allocated sick days. If someone is off more than 3 separate occasions a rolling year, HR are involved and a formal monitoring programme started. They want any opportunity to sack people...the company (nationwide) must save a huge amount of money in the next year, due to government cut backs. I'm being deliberately vague here.


The issue is that say I was off sick with a stomach bug now, I would be on formal monitoring despite not being off sick since October last year. I was unfortunate enough to in July, contract a stomach bug from DS (just started mixing with other kids). In August, I had an ear infection which was painful and made me feel ill to move (labyrynthitis) which was confirmed by a Doctor. It still counted against my sick record. The third was an explosive stomach bug, again from DS, in October. Believe me, I wouldn't have been allowed to set foot at work in that state, as the rules forbid anyone with D&V going in. You're supposed to remain off work 24 hours after the last episode. 


Now if I were to be off sick in 2 weeks time, it wouldn't hit the trigger (the July episode would have passed) but I would be informally monitored for 3 months in case I was faking it, knowing they couldn't do anything (not that I would do that, but people have abused the system in the past). It has been said in meetings that if anyone is off work ill, they need to be very, very careful even going on Facebook. This was reiterated at last admin meeting. If there should be anything remotely suspicious on FB, then it will be investigated as a disciplinary. It really is getting that bad.


It's a bad situation for people that don't abuse the system. I don't like being off work ill at the best of times, even less so now there is this feeling of persecution.  Coworkers ask questions..."what's wrong with you?" "Nobody feels well today but we're all working" "is it really bad enough to not come to work?" People who are genuinely off ill feel guilty for being ill. I've gone into work several times when in the past I know I would have stayed at home. My chest infection a the end of August (run up to wedding stress, probably, coupled with exhaustion).  When DS went to hospital with a serious enough respiratory virus and we didn't get home until after 2am and I was too scared to sleep properly in case his condition worsened again. You get the picture.


Basically, for all the reasons I've described, to me, it's just not s good idea...I've taken time to read all the replies and understand why you guys feel the way you do. But I guess it's a personal thing here.
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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #38 on: June 14, 2013, 05:47:39 PM »
If I worked in such an environment as yours, I wouldn't think it was a good idea either... for people in that workplace.

As it is, I work for a company that doesn't care if you're on FB while at work, as long as you do your job properly :)
 
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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #39 on: June 14, 2013, 06:02:04 PM »
Years ago, pre-Facebook days, I got sick. Called work and told them I wasn't coming in. Called the doctor, because my temperature was about 103. Got appointment for 11:30. Went to appointment. Got diagnosed with Lyme Disease. Got prescription. Went to pharmacy for medication. Went home. Called in sick the following two days, until the fever broke.

Went back to work. Got called into owner's office, where I was questioned by owner and vice-president about my misuse of sick days (we only got 3 sick days a year).

You see, I was driving to the pharmacy about noon time. Someone from the office out to get lunch saw me. And the only local pharmacy was in a small mall near the office, and someone else from the office saw me leaving the drug store. And both of them apparently couldn't wait to run to the boss and tattle on me for pretending to be sick. Because clearly, if I could drive a car and walk into the mall, I was not sick enough to stay home from work. Having a fever that topped off at 105 clearly doesn't matter.

It took a lot of explaining and reassuring on my part that I wasn't faking. I finally just said, "So if I get sick, I'm not supposed to go to the doctor's? And I'm not supposed to get antibiotics?" I think that finally got through to them that sometimes, a sick person has no choice but to go out. Then they tried to tell me that I should have had someone drive me to the doctor's and someone else should have picked up the medication. Since I'm single and live alone, not sure who they thought was going to do that.

And it wasn't all bad, as I learned that I had 2 enemies in the office and now knew to look out for them.

I see Facebook as the modern day equivalent. If you know that someone from your office might take your posting on Facebook the wrong way, I'd stay off it. Or better yet, not friend co-workers and be able to Facebook all I liked if I was home sick.

It's the *perception* of what you are doing that counts many times, not what you are *actually* doing.
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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #40 on: June 14, 2013, 06:11:46 PM »
My last job, if myself or co worker had to be off (she sliced her leg and had to have 32 staples, my DD has health issues and had to be seen by specialists) we would be on FB so we could IM each other with questions or just check in.  It was easier than calling each other.  But if you work in an environment when you can't even get sick (and trust me, I worked when I was home with DD..my home computer was networked into work because boss lady didn't want you to miss a minute) I can see being afraid, but my theory is, as long as I am not posting about drinking margaritas by the pool, they can't say anything.

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #41 on: June 15, 2013, 03:05:37 PM »
As a teacher you have gwt a sub when you are voing to be out, whether or a docror's appointnwnt or anything else. And you can't get a sub to come in for just an hour or two. The reality is that in my experience it is almost impossible to get a dub for an entire day. Teachers who call in a half day job might not get it picked up and so othet teachers have yo double up, cover during planning hours or the room goes unattended (whole other thread).  I have had to burn an entire day so I could go to a morning doctor's appointment. Not sick mind you, just not the type of work place where you can takw an hour or two for a schexuked appointment. There are also no such things as bereavement days, at least in that district, so if Grandma (or spouse/parent/child)dies you call in sick for each day you need to arrange/attend the funeral.

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Re: Facebook when off work ill
« Reply #42 on: June 18, 2013, 02:56:35 PM »
At times I have been too sick to get to work, but well enough to do things around the house.  Totally unnecessary story time. :D

A few months ago I had a massive and terrifying allergic reaction to something (haven't figured out the trigger yet) and was initially misdiagnosed as having shingles.  The doctor told me I was very contagious and to stay home, away from my many pregnant coworkers.  I let the office know and they were more than happy to keep me at a very great distance.  At that point in the allergy attack phase I was itchy and very unhappy, but also completely mobile and able to do just about anything.  I remoted in and got a lot of work done from home.

As the allergy attack grew worse, I was misdiagnosed a second time.  This time it was a much more terrible thing they believed that I had and put me on narcotic pain relief and all kinds of other medications that turned me into a zombie.  When I was awake, I was dizzy, my hives had swollen into enormous blisters that made it very hard for me to move, and I couldn't walk a straight line.  I wasn't contagious, but I wasn't able to go to work or get anything useful done.  I spent the weekend like that in a daze, posting on Facebook and my personal blog with photos of my blisters and how gross I was feeling.

Later, I finally got a correct diagnosis, and was able to stop taking most of the medications that were making me so woozy.  I ended up staying home another day to go to follow up appointments with the dermatologist and wait for the blisters to drain enough for me to be able to drive to work again.  I was posting more photos of my gross condition on Facebook and my blog that day too.

When I got back to work, I had photos to share of how yucky my last few days had been, that only the morbidly curious really wanted to see.  Nobody was upset that I'd been slacking off because it was incredibly obvious that I wasn't having anything resembling fun.  If you're sick and can't get to work that doesn't really mean you're sick and can't use a computer or cellphone.