I agree! and, Lynn2000 I really liked your post. Nicely written.
I, too, have skirted issues or omitted certain facts . . . like how I really
was during my teenage years when they asked me about my life growing up. I told them about cutting classes and how mad my parents were when I missed curfew, but they don't need to know all the gory details
. . . but I don't think that's lying because I never painted my past as a happy one.
I want my DS to always be honest with me. How can I expect that if I am not always honest with him?
This. Exactly. I never lied to my kids for the very reason that I firmly believe that they will inevitably find out they've been lied to, whether it's tomorrow or in 10 years. And once they find out I've lied, how will they ever trust me again, and how can I expect them not to think it's perfectly OK to lie to me?
My kids are grown now and they really do appreciate that when I say something to them, they have no doubt that I fully believe it to be true.
Yup. My sentiments, exactly.
Yesterday I realized that I don't think that it's possible for me to lie to my kids . . . Hence, the reason for my post.
Both DDs (19 & 21) have been getting on me about my health. While I'm (still) in relatively good health I know I need to exercise more
and make a few changes with my dietary habits.
I told them that I would start walking around the building after lunch.
But, of course, a rush job came in and, well, I never did go for my walk yesterday. (I know, excuses, excuses, right?)*
When DD#2 asked me about my walk I honestly thought about lying to her. Who's going to know? Right? But I just couldn't do it.
I'm not a liar. In general, I like to think of me as an honest person, but I do occasionally tell lies . . . like to my Boss "I'm sick today and won't be in" or maybe I'll tell a friend "I'm busy that day" when I'm really not sick or busy.
I was just surprised at myself that telling a lie to my kids would affect me in such a manner. I felt like I should put my hand to my forehead if I were going to lie (not really, I just read that post today, but it's such a kid-like-solution if you're going to lie!
Yeah. No. I can't lie to my kids.
Thank you all for your posts. I really like reading other posters viewpoints on this subject.
*I didn't walk after lunch today, either
, and fully intended to walk a few blocks when I got home from work. It was pouring rain. BUT! I did walk up and down the stairs to my basement 8 times. That counts, doesn't it?
(4 replies while I was typing . . . posting anyway, will come back to read the others. Thanks again!)