So, I had this conversation with my mom when I received a wedding announcement from a cousin (complete with a homemade registry list asking for money - but that's another post!).
She says that receiving a wedding announcement carried the same "expectation" of a gift as receiving an invitation. I very much disagree. To me, announcements are a FYI - by the way, we got married, wanted you to know. I don't have a problem with announcements at all but do not any way feel obligated to send a gift in response. Maybe a card, but honestly, probably not (but mostly because I'm not really a card person). I might shoot of an email or facebook message saying congratulations. But, a gift...nope.
Now, I would say that graduation announcements are different to me. Generally, you do not invite everyone you know to a graduation for a number of reasons. Often there is a limit on the number of guests or tickets and also, really, no one wants to sit through those things unless you are really, really close to the person. And, I don't know anyone who would travel for one unless it's your child, grandchild, or sibling. But, announcements are sent to all those people who have been apart of one's life just to announce this huge accomplishment. And, people do usually send a small cash gift in response. This makes sense to me because there is no real expectation of attending the event.
Weddings, though, are different. You invite people. That's the expectation. I think expecting gifts from people you are not willing to have witness your event or be willing to host in some way with food and drink (in whatever way that translates) is really asking too much.
So, what say you - does a wedding announcement carry the same gift expectation as an invitation.
*** Let's just accept the premise that gifts are never officially expected or an obligation. No need to beat that horse. But, in the real world, we know how it works:-)