A few months ago, I posted a thread about several norovirus shut-downs at the place where MIL lives. This has now cleared up but things are not going well.
MIL fell and injured her shoulder. Nothing was broken but, while being checked out, other problems were discovered. MIL wound up spending about a week and a half, including Mother's Day, in the clinic because of fluid on her lungs.
She's back home in her apartment but several events have everyone in the family a bit on edge. Last week, an Email went out to all that began, 'My end is near...'. A nephew was the first to read the email and it sparked a barrage of concerned phone calls, emails and tweets around the family. It didn't help that we couldn't reach MIL for several days.
SIL is the person of contact in case of emergency and hadn't received a message from the doctor. When we did manage to get in touch with MIL, she sounded good but not great. She also sounded a bit despondent. As proof of this, yesterday, we received a letter and documents from her updating the costs of her cremation.
There's to be a major meeting between MIL and her doctors on Wednesday, June 5. SIL can't fly half way across the country for this but we can. We don't mind going and we'll be there with MIL for most of the week.
There is an etiquette question here that's an odd one. MIL will want us to stay in her apartment. The
problem is that she will want to be the gracious hostess. She'll want to make us meals and keep us entertained. Frankly, we think that, while having family around will lift her spirits, she will try to work
too much and do herself damage.
There is a guest house on the grounds where we'd prefer to stay. It's only about a five minute walk from MIL's apartment so we'd be spending most of her time with her. The charge for our room would go to MIL's account but we'll certainly pay the cost ourselves.
Should we accept MIL's hospitality or opt for the guest house?