Maybe the lady has every intention of dropping in on her memorial service. I don't think anybody can prove she won't be able to do exactly that. It is presumptuous, disrespectful and impolite to assume everyone shares one's own spiritual and religious or non-religious views. I am sure no one from this forum would do that deliberately, would you?
I thought the matter was settled.
I haven't seen anything on this thread that I would call 'presumptuous, disrespectful or impolite'.
I have not noticed any reference to 'spiritual, religious or non-religious views'.
All of the posters have been kind and helpful.
Could someone help me figure out what White Lotus is trying to say?
I believe White Lotus is referring to Maude's response, quoted below.
Part of the reason for the gathering is to make a video to be shown at MIL's Memorial Service. She wants the people with whom she lives to 'see her family all at once'.
MIL does not seem to understand that at her Memorial service she will no longer be alive.
The people with whom she lives probably suffer from dementia or other aged-related conditions
and will probably have little memory of or interest in her.
ETA: Bolding mine. (I am also sure the statement was not made presumptuously, disrespectfully, or impolitely.)