A year ago, I did a cut direct (with a firm and final explanation) to a fairly close relative. I had tried with this person, but they tried (and came very close) to causing serious drama in my and DD's lives with vicious, unfounded stories and it was the absolute straw that broke the camels back. I can distance myself from some drama, but when you needlessly involve my kids, it is over. Occasionally, another relative will try to tell me it is time to move on and let this person into my life. No, because the person has not changed and will not acknowledge what they did (that was proven wrong but caused some serious turmoil for oldest DD). While being asked to kiss and make up, this person had moved on to another family victim, causing dissension with her kids too. Last year, this person and his new gf found out they were expecting and he started calling me 2-3 times a day. I just ignored it because I had no desire to celebrate this event (long back story but this is a Jerry Springer type relationship). Well, one of the other people who cut him off told me the reason he was calling was mooching off of people (I figured knowing this person as I do). But a month ago that person went to the dark side and is celebrating along with them. So now I am getting more pressure to be buddies. Baby was born the other day (saw someone elses posting about it) and the phone calls have started again (using a new number but I had been forewarned he got a new number by someone else that mistakenly answered and got sucked into it). So I have gotten 6 calls in the last 2 days plus messages from 2 other relatives telling me I have to let it go and celebrate. I have bean dipped, I have been honest, I have been mad but it won't stop. So, without losing the 2 who are pressuring me because I do truly love them, how do I get the message to them that baby or not, I want nothing to do with him or the train wreck that is his life??? And how do I politely let them know that it is not love for me that he won't stop calling, but because he is looking to exhort whatever he can with his sob stories? I absolutely do not approve of his choices and, while happy the baby is healthy, I cannot get excited over this at all because this is just not going to end well.