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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #75 on: June 07, 2013, 09:46:50 AM »
I did talk to an officer last night (was out with the dog and waved him over as he drove by).  He said I did the first step correctly by telling him to not come over, call, email anything and if he does any electronic things, save them for a paper trail and if he comes over lock the door and call them.  He said he would mention it to the other officers who patrol my neighborhood.  There is nothing to file a report on yet as I only gave him his actual marching orders last night, but anything else after will be considered harassment.  I gave them his name and what part of town I think he lives in, what they will do with it, I don't know, but he has a felony record and spent the better part of the last 10 years in prison so he should be a little smart in what he does.  I am waiting for his gf to reach out next.  I have never met her, but have formed an opinion on her due to behaviors I do know and I want nothing to do with her either.  I haven't heard from Mr Cut Off's 2 lone supporters yet, but if they do say anything to me, they will hear crickets chirping.

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #76 on: June 07, 2013, 09:48:24 AM »
Sounds like you could use a good night in with a fun popcorn flick.
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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #77 on: June 07, 2013, 09:54:02 AM »
I tried to post a little earlier but eHell wasn't behaving.  I was going to say that I think you might be well served at following Virg's advice.  It looks like you're headed in that direction.  What a MESS!  I can't get over the CRAZY!  (((hugs)))

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #78 on: June 07, 2013, 10:04:18 AM »
My friend asked me the other day when I am planning on having a nervous breakdown  ;D ;D.  My sister is in her own hell too with everything going wrong this week for her too so we decided we are going to hide at the casino for 2 hours tomorrow while my younger DD is at a birthday party.  With all that has happened in the past week, we feel we are guaranteed to hit big!  And my Dad is feeling better today..whew, a good day!

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #79 on: June 07, 2013, 10:10:10 AM »
My friend asked me the other day when I am planning on having a nervous breakdown  ;D ;D.  My sister is in her own hell too with everything going wrong this week for her too so we decided we are going to hide at the casino for 2 hours tomorrow while my younger DD is at a birthday party.  With all that has happened in the past week, we feel we are guaranteed to hit big!  And my Dad is feeling better today..whew, a good day!
Just make sure not to steal anyone's lucky machine... ;) >:D ;)
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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #80 on: June 07, 2013, 11:02:29 AM »
He actually showed up???  :o :o :o :o

Poddity pod to everyone else's advice, and I'm really glad that your week is improving. Some days it just feels like the universe is conspiring against you, KWIM? Fortunately it does improve.

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(sits back with popcorn to watch what Mr. Clueless does next)

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #81 on: June 07, 2013, 02:46:58 PM »
Hahaha..no one better steal my lucky machine !  And my sister and I and a few friends are actually taking bets on his next move.
I bet his gf shows up next to try to soften me up.  She is a train wreck all by herself, so she will meet the fine police.

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #82 on: June 07, 2013, 03:02:33 PM »
Don't be surprised if someone shows up with the baby next.  After all, how could you refuse to see the baby and help the baby and give them money and baby things for the baby?

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #83 on: June 07, 2013, 03:11:50 PM »
My advice:

When he next shows up (or his GF, or baby, or anyone else acting as his proxy), don't open the door.  Don't engage.  Just call the police and let them deal with the situation.

They can tell whatever sob stories they want to the police.
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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #84 on: June 07, 2013, 03:43:21 PM »
I plan on calling the police.  The problem last night was the front door was open,  but I never opened the screen door..actually stood back in case I had to slam the main door shut.  I was told not to say a word, just call the police.  And yes, I believe they will try to bring the baby but that won't work with me.

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #85 on: June 07, 2013, 06:21:52 PM »
OT but why do people think that babies are these magical beings who will cure cancer, end world hunger, foster world peace, and erase the past?   ::)

You: CRUD MONKEYS! you killed Kenny!
Them: But I have a baaaaaby

You: You just ran over his foot with a lawnmower!
Them: But I have a baaaaaby

You: Why do you have 12 kilos of cocaine in your house?
Them: But I have a baaaaaby

You: Why do you need us to pay for your honeymoon
Them: But I have a baaaaaby

I have this vision of them coming back and getting out of the car with the baby held in front them chanting "Babybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybaby" at you.  ;D

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #86 on: June 07, 2013, 08:22:14 PM »
I'm glad you had the spine to tell him off and to talk to the cops. They can't do anything if they don't know there are problems. If he and his girlfriend show up and you have the front door open - shut it and lock it before you call the cops.


Keep a look out for them when you are driving around.


Contact your father's case worker at the hospital and see if you can change him to private patient - I think that is the right term. It means that only people preauthorized (you, your sister and any other person you trust) will be given any information. Someone else calls/comes by the hospital will deny your Father is there. Maybe do some stalking of your own. If you can find a picture of this person of face book print it out and give it to the caseworker so they can tell the appropriate people to make sure he isn't wandering around the halls looking for your Dad.


Honestly if someone was pressuring me to support a deadbeat like this because they can't afford their child - I would be giving them information on the safe surrender laws in their state.
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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #87 on: June 07, 2013, 09:49:41 PM »

I have this vision of them coming back and getting out of the car with the baby held in front them chanting "Babybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybaby" at you.  ;D

Sort of like zombies, but obsessed with babies rather than brains?
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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #88 on: June 07, 2013, 10:04:09 PM »

I have this vision of them coming back and getting out of the car with the baby held in front them chanting "Babybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybaby" at you.  ;D

Sort of like zombies, but obsessed with babies rather than brains?
Well sorta, but zombies have more class than that. They don't expect others to be as enamored of brains as they are.

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Re: Being pressured to celebrate with a cut off relative
« Reply #89 on: June 07, 2013, 10:06:25 PM »
But, but...isn't that what faaaaaaaaamily is for?  To support their bad choices?  If I told you what a Jerry Springer episode they really are and how they got together, you would never believe me,,heck we are still trying to figure out why something that sounds like the story for a bad talk show is actually happened !  They honestly think my sister and I are not only able to but are willing to support their bad decision. 

And yes..I see them begging me to "LookLookLook  it is a baby   you would never let anything happen to the baby??" 
They are right, I would never let anything happen to the baby...that is why I know the number to child protective services! >:D >:D