[quote author=Mental Magpie link=topic=129274.msg2988665#msg2988665
The OP figuring out a way to not let BIL win and him thinking he won are different things to me. The first would mean she would have to think he would be winning; the second is that he would have to think he would be winning. BIL thinks he won if he gets her out of his hair and gets to do what he wants when he wants. That is about what I was talking, not about the OP having to make sure he doesn't "win".
You presumed that my age inhibits my experience. That is insulting because you're presuming that any and everything I have gone through means I don't meet your standards of experience to know what I'm talking about. You're in essence saying that I don't know any better because of my age and that makes my opinion inferior to yours because you're older and have more experience. It's like patting me on the head and saying, "There, there, child. Bless your heart." I am adult, please treat me like one.
No I didn't, please don't tell me what I'm thinking. It's a simple fact of life that the more years you have the more experiences you have.