But it's my hair!... More info #58, #63, #74, #84, #86, #105, #161

[MummyPumpkin83]

Maybe I should have said I took the 20 month old at my sister and mothers request, so he could meet the relatives. I even got a thanks for bringing him text message from the bride afterwards.

[Surianne]

I did not contact my sister to ask her about the hair. I posted to face book that I was thinking of celebrating my birthday with a new haircut or tattoo. Friends posted ideas, I posted the pic I linked to here. My sister replied that I was having my hair up for the wedding and purple didn't really match the wedding colours, then she called me while I was busy at work to again state that it didn't really go with her "vision" but if I couldn't wait I could do it.

That makes me absolutely furious on your behalf.  However, it sounds like you're a better person than me (I'd have probably painted my whole body purple after that!) and it's great that you made the less-drama choice that you're happy with.  I hope it goes well and that you'll update us after the wedding and new colour re: how your hair turns out!

[PeterM]

I'm sure that winking face is to show you're joking but I don't actually think you are.  It speaks volumes of your attitude to your little sister.

And this speaks volumes of your attitude towards a fellow Etiquette Hell poster. I'll give you points for coming right out and declaring your low opinion of her, though.

[cass2591]

Since the OP has made her decision and people are bickering, time to move on.