Dear E-Hellions, I'd like to have your opinion about an issue I am having with a friend of mine. Let's call her Jane.
BG: 8 years ago Jane met Joe, a fellow coworker in our mutual work environment. She was very very frail at the time about her image. She liked him and thought he liked her back. In my opinion, he really led her on. Then he brought her back to reality in a really harsh way. She was very upset and had even bigger self-esteem issues as a consequence. She told me a lot about this "break up" and about his prior "lovey-dovey" attitude, with lots of details. Joe changed job 5 years ago and we never saw him again. The only chanche to see him is going to a specific mall where his mother has a shop. Every time Jane and I went to that mall, she always wondered if we were going to meet him but that never happened.
She is close friend with me but is friend with my DH too. /end BG
Cue to last Monday. DH and I go to THAT mall and, guess what? I see Joe! I didn't say hi because he didn't recognize me and we were not that close even when we were working together. Meanwhile my husband was texting with Jane and - with my suggestion - wrote her textually:"Guess what? We saw Joe".
Well, she was really upset about that. She told me she is very hurt that I disclosed such a private and painful part of her life to my DH.
So, my question is: was I rude/wrong to ask DH to write her that text?
I'm going to give more background that may change your perspective, but first I'd like to have opinions on this interaction.