ARGH! The gift bringing situation drives me nuts. Once one has reached the "over 21" stage of one's life, is a big gift for every invited occastion really necessary? We had a party for our 25th a few years ago. I told anyone who asked to NOT bring anything. Really, no, please. Still people brought stuff. I thanked them at the door and put the wrapped items away for later. I want NOT going to open gifts at a party for my friends. Now I am stuck with a bunch of silver (yuck) tea sets, platters, coasters, knick-knacks that I really can't use.
The parents who were celebrating their 40th anniversary - what the heck did they expect people to bring? At that stage of life you don't need any more stuff for your house.
I very much appreciated the few who listened and brought nothing, followed by the ones who brought a bottle of wine, or a Xmas ornament (our aniversary is in December).
The big silver stuff? Anyone here want a silver tea set? I'm about ready to take it to Goodwill.