She has been saved!
I was just not happy with how she smelled. DH thinks I am a bit of a freak and that I have a nose like a blood hound. I can smell anything even days later.
she was just not clean enough.
So planning on a kill or cure (was going to look at removing the wires from the main "box" and re soldering them back on if we had to) we opened her up.
Her wiring we shocking easy to remove. It all comes out in one unit. The paw pads are held in place with a small pocked of cotton with a single stitch. once the stuffing was taken out it was childes play.
All her inner fluff and plushiness went in to a light pillowcase and got washed at 60C with the oxi stuff I use on her nappies. Then she was tumble dried on high with lavender oil.
Putting her back together took about 15mins. Baby Girl is cuddling her as we speak and she smells nicer now than when he got her new.
thank you for the suggestions. I am off to find forums to post this on so other mummys and daddys can save there child's bedtime toy.
The funny thing is, I really wanted to just pull her apart to begin with but didn't as I was sure I would destroy her. As it was, it meant I just wasted a weekend
Congratulations! I was going to suggest disassembling/unstuffing the toy, but with the pads in the hands, it sure sounded like that would be too complicated.
I know a family that had to pull apart and unstuff a critter with a music box inside to wash it (but no wires to the paws, etc.). The kid wanted it back before it they had it restuffed, so they ended up giving her the plush "skin" of the toy without the stuffing or music box, just to tide her over until they fixed it all. Well, turned out that the kid was perfectly happy with "Flat [Critter]" (as she was redubbed), and "Flat Critter" was loved for many more years without ever being restuffed. Sort of a combination blankie and (un)stuffed toy. The kid's mom apparently found it quite convenient that she could fold Flat Critter to put in her purse when they were out and about.
So if you ever have to unstuff Violet again like this and if
you don't think your DD would be upset by seeing her unstuffed, it might be worth seeing if she'd be happy with "Flat Violet" until she's out of the nausea stage. That might save you from having to do the unstuffing more than once during an illness.