Commenting on a co-workers food

[snoopygirl]

So at work I buy my lunch almost every day. It's just easier then me packing a lunch then having to worry about keeping it cold on my way to work. However, the girl who waits on me at the cafe has to make a comment on the amount of food I eat. Things like our big eater, boy you are hungry, had enough to eat yet. This really bothers me. Its not like I am eating a lot of food ( today for example I had a cup of soup, a salad, roll and bottle of water) but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable and I want to say to something to her but don't want to be rude.

[Alida]

It's time to speak with her supervisor.  That is highly unprofessional and downright rude!

[IndianInlaw]

Ask if she wants you to eat it in someone else's cafe.

You can't possibly be the only one who she does this to.

Tell the manager.  I'm sure he or she would appreciate knowing.

[Bijou]

So at work I buy my lunch almost every day. It's just easier then me packing a lunch then having to worry about keeping it cold on my way to work. However, the girl who waits on me at the cafe has to make a comment on the amount of food I eat. Things like our big eater, boy you are hungry, had enough to eat yet. This really bothers me. Its not like I am eating a lot of food ( today for example I had a cup of soup, a salad, roll and bottle of water) but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable and I want to say to something to her but don't want to be rude.

Just ask her if she'd like to repeat that comment in front of her boss. 

[Chocolate Cake]

I bet that giving her comments the "Cold Shoulder" for a week or two will probably quench her diarrhea mouth:  Don't make eye contact, don't smile, do not respond in any way to her comments (with the exception of tightening your mouth or heaving a big sigh).   If she doesn't pick up that you don't care for her commentary about your food, then you could also add in the Glare of Death.

[Brentwood]

So at work I buy my lunch almost every day. It's just easier then me packing a lunch then having to worry about keeping it cold on my way to work. However, the girl who waits on me at the cafe has to make a comment on the amount of food I eat. Things like our big eater, boy you are hungry, had enough to eat yet. This really bothers me. Its not like I am eating a lot of food ( today for example I had a cup of soup, a salad, roll and bottle of water) but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable and I want to say to something to her but don't want to be rude.

Just ask her if she'd like to repeat that comment in front of her boss. 

Perfect response.

[itiswhatitisn't]

Is this a cafe at work?  If not I'd find somewhere else to go.  And I'd call management and let them know that while you've been eating there for X years you will no longer tolerate the rudeness of their employees.  That is not a lot to eat.  If the cafe is at work and you can't drive anywhere else, report her to her supervisor or HR.  While you seem to be surviving it she could trigger an eating disorder in someone else.

[Twik]

This is one time I think it might be acceptable to do "etiquette correction" in public. If she's doing this because she simply doesn't know better, she'd best learn this quickly, for the sake of her future employment.

Look her in the eyes, and say "It's considered impolite to make personal comments like that to other people". Don't argue - if she tries, just repeat "It's impolite".

Better yet, find the woman from the other post who blasted the cashier for joking with her friend about buying candy. The two of them deserve each other.

[Adah]

Is she the only cashier?

[T'Mar of Vulcan]

Its not like I am eating a lot of food ... but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable

Well, OBVIOUSLY you have SERIOUS food issues if people commenting on your FOOD bothers you!!

No, I'm not serious. But when I posted a story similar to yours on the old (D*lphi) board, this was one of the responses. Not that it's rude to comment on what people are eating, rude to harrass someone who's just having lunch; no. Obviously, because I was bothered by it, I had "food issues".

My bottom. I think if someone were to comment on my food these days, I'd give them a stony stare and say, "I'll eat what I like; thank you." You should do the same.

[Balletmom]

Or the shrug and the "And your point is?" response.

It's not professional. She hasn't been trained properly, although one would hope a cashier in a food service place would know better just from instinct.

If you had a full plate or an almost empty one, it's personal. You don't have to justify your food choices or explain them to the cashier.

 

[hobish]

So at work I buy my lunch almost every day. It's just easier then me packing a lunch then having to worry about keeping it cold on my way to work. However, the girl who waits on me at the cafe has to make a comment on the amount of food I eat. Things like our big eater, boy you are hungry, had enough to eat yet. This really bothers me. Its not like I am eating a lot of food ( today for example I had a cup of soup, a salad, roll and bottle of water) but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable and I want to say to something to her but don't want to be rude.

The cashier in our caf used to do that to me, too, because i always got gigantic salads for lunch. I'm here (at work) through lunch & dinner both - not that it is anyone's business! It made me even more crazy that i found myself trying to explain myself, even though it was none of her business what or how much i eat & it was rude to comment on it.
I think our cashier was just trying to be friendly. It's a smallish building & i was there everyday.
Sorry i have no advice ... when it happened to me i just caved. 

[madmusician]

It's none of her business, and I would tell her that, complete with an icy glare that says "burn in ehell"

heck, if it was me, I might be tempted to tell her to burn in etiquette hell

[Clara Bow]

I think I'd look at her and say "Your point is?" I don't care if you're eating a side of beef or a steak smothered in pork chops, what you eat and how much you eat is your business.
Edited because I don't think there is any such thing as a steck....

[Suze]

If what you ate was "a lot of food" (her expression, not mine) it sounds like she might have an eating disorder (you know the kind where they think that ONE lettuce leaf is too much food)

I  think that she need some kind of wake up call by manager type person.

She is just plain RUDE