Commenting on a co-workers food

[HogwartsAlum]

We do that to each other all the time at my work, "That's a big sandwich," "Mmm, that looks good," or even "What the h--- are you eating!" but it's among friends.   

when I was working at a deli-cafe, we would have gotten in trouble if we'd commented negatively on a customer's order - if they wanted a pickles and ketchup sandwich on dark rye, they got it, no questions asked.  If they wanted six of them, same thing.  The only comments we ever made were positive ones, like "That is my favorite sandwich," or something like that. 

One regular lady used to order a salad sandwich (she made it up - it wasn't on the menu) and I I told her it looked really good.  She said yeah, and I tried it.  (Lettuce, sunflower seeds, sprinkle of red onion and dressing on wheat pita.)  It WAS good.  I told her and she was pleased that she had converted another person to her sandwich! 

[LadyJaneinMD]

I've learned that if anyone decides to make a comment about what I'm eating, I just have to say, 'I don't recall asking your opinion on my choices.' That usually shuts them up.
As a VERY LARGE woman, I get enough flack in public for taking up my space, so I've had enough.

Then I go upstairs to the cafeteria, where the owners are Greek, and they keep trying to feed me at least twice as much as I want!  The wife bustles right over to serve me herself, and serves up these HUGE portions that I would have loved as a teenager, but not so much now. I try to slow her down, but I still end up throwing out at least half of the lunch.  Oh well.  They're so happy to see me.

[That Anime Chick]

So at work I buy my lunch almost every day. It's just easier then me packing a lunch then having to worry about keeping it cold on my way to work. However, the girl who waits on me at the cafe has to make a comment on the amount of food I eat. Things like our big eater, boy you are hungry, had enough to eat yet. This really bothers me. Its not like I am eating a lot of food ( today for example I had a cup of soup, a salad, roll and bottle of water) but even if I was eating a lot of food who has the right to comment on that. It makes me uncomfortable and I want to say to something to her but don't want to be rude.

That's just downright rude. Do you know if she does this to anyone else? If not, it seems like she's making a personal attack on you for some unknown reason. I can't see how eating sensible things like what you have is so wrong.

You can say something without being rude. It goes along the lines of "Please tell your supervisor that I would like to speak with him/her, now." If she doesn't get her supervisor, then you can simply ask another cafe worker for the supervisor. Later, rinse, repeat until you talk to him/her.

[kethria]

This reminds me of a time when we were hosting a visiting scientist from Portugal, and we went to a nice steakhouse for lunch. Almost all of us got the buffet, but I think he got prime rib and salad bar, and asked the waitress for a side of cottage cheese, because they didn't have it in Portugal and he loved it. The waitress looked at him, opened her mouth, and then closed it, then said, "Are you sure you want that with everything else you ordered?" I was mortified, but he wrote it off as "Ha ha, you spunky Americans!". The tone of her voice was absolutely hateful as well, and I suggested we tip her 10%, because she was rude, not just to him, but to everyone, but he insisted we tip her 20%. I've never been back to that place again.

[MineralDiva]

"The amount of food I eat, and the amount of the tip I leave YOU, are both MY business.  At least I'll get lunch out of the deal this time.  Can't say the same for you and your tip, Miss Rude Personal Comment!"

[gadget--gal]

I wouldnt say anything to the worker, I'd just find the manager and have a quiet word. A similkar thing happened to me a few weeks ago at the supermarket. I was looking for the semi-skimmmed (that's half-fat for the Americans) milk in the dairy section so I asked the guy who was stocking the shelves where it was. He pointed it out and then asked "why do you drink semi-skimmed?"  I said "what?!" and he went on " I don't understand why people drink semi -skimmed" I mus have said something like " that's my business" or something but as I was walking to the till I saw someome who looked like a manager so I asked him and he confirmed. Then I told him "your man over there was asking me why I buy semi-skimmed" indicating the bottle in my hand "I really don't need that when I'm shopping". He was like "oh what?!" an walked off in that direction.

Perhaps the guy thought semi-skimmed was a pointless halfway house or something. I really care why by don't go asking customers stuppid questions or you might not be in business much longer.