So, we now have four little girls, and we already get the comments. If we end up having a fifth, they'll only increase. "wow, all girls! Gonna keep trying until you get that boy?" "I'll bet your husband is hoping for a boy next time?" If we have another and it's a girl, we'll be asked if we (especially my husband) were hoping for a boy, if we were disappointed, if we'll keep trying. If it's a boy we'll get asked if we'll stop now that we have our boy, etc.
I asked about this once in a specific case of somebody who was asking repeatedly and got some good advice, but I have no idea how to find that thread. What I'm wondering, though, is about dealing with new, friendly one-timers. In other words, people who have just met us for the first time and ask once, not repeatedly. We've just moved to a new area and we're getting this many times every day, in front of the kids. It's so bad my husband says if we have a fifth and it's a boy we need to have another one afterwards to prove we weren't just stopping at a boy.
Would it be too harsh to say, "we're really happy with our wonderful little girls and would never want them to think that they aren't enough and we need a boy, too?". I think something like this was suggested in that other thread but the context of a repeated pusher versus a one-time asker might make a difference. I don't want to alienate people, but i wouldn't mind making them think about how their questions might appear to the kids. I can reassure our kids all I want, and I do, but, seriously, several different groups of people this morning and on and on they went with it--it's gotta make it hard for them to keep our reassurances in mind.
Oh, and for the record, it's not a sexism thing, just a "oh, wow, your entire family of many little children is all made up of the same sex!" thing.
(Edited: Sorry for all the typos, getting used to typing on an ipad.)