Same vein, but possibly slightly off topic. For many years I did a type of demonstration dancing. I have a partner and we were asked by various organizations to put on a performance for a fancy business dinner, or a holiday showcase, or even once, in the middle of a fashion show.
"We just need 3 dances, so a total of 10 minutes or so, with breaks between dances." They'd tell us. Sometimes compensation would be offered (a whopping $25), or they'd offer to feed us dinner. If the causes were good, we'd accept these casual terms. If they weren't ideal, we'd be pressured by our coaches or higher ups in the dance world to do it anyway because "it got our sport out there and made the club look good".
Well doing hair and makeup takes time, as does driving to the event. We'd get to the place, costumes in hand, and ask the organizer where we could change. "Oh, we don't have anywhere specific for you. Can't you just use the bathrooms?" We'd say that change rooms were mentioned as part of the requirements, and get beandipped. Okay, so I have to take my costume, costing several hundreds/thousands of dollars and try to keep it from getting wet in the toilet while I changed.
After a while, it just wasn't worth it to us to do these demos. The benefits to us personally were never worth the output. We actually got a bit of flack from other dancers for no longer doing these demos "for the good of the club".
If it's so important to them, maybe they
can do it!
A few years back, I made a knitted apple hat for a family member's baby. They liked it so much that they asked me if I could do other fruits as well. I said I could probably do an orange, a lemon, a grape and a peach. So, I got a proposal; make one of each, and they would show the hats to the owner of a consignment store. I trusted them (silly me), so I agreed, and thought it might be a good way to sell some of my stuff.
In the future, I would simply ask for the name of the store and the owner and do it myself, but here's what happened. I had to buy a couple colors I didn't have, and got to work making five fruit baby hats. The actual hats weren't a problem, but the leaves and stems had to be made and attached, and while that wasn't hard to do, it was kind of tedious. Anyway, I made the hats, handed them over, and waited to hear back. About a month later, after making a couple phone calls to Family Member and having the conversation get redirected, he finally admitted that he had
intended to do as he had said, but the shop had closed, and he didn't know what else to do, so he kept the hats for his daughter.
Uhhh...how about maybe, oh, I don't know, giving them back?
When I got a little annoyed and said I wished he had told me so that I wouldn't have waited around for a month, and I would have appreciated it if I'd gotten the hats back, or if he'd at least asked me if they could keep them. I probably would have said yes. He got mad, bawled me out about how rude it was to ask for something after it's already been given (
), and pointed out, "Besides, you like making them, don't you?"
I had fun making the first two. After that, it was a pain in the butt.
Never got those hats back. I don't want the hats, but it's the principle of the thing. Sooo...what else could I do? I let the matter drop, and took it as a learning experience.