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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #585 on: February 22, 2014, 06:12:45 PM »
I made a green wool cloak for Ambrosia Hino with flannel interlining and something satiny (I think - it's been ten years or so) with a hood...she loves it. 

But I took the fabric back to the sewing store and got their permission to cut it out on one of their three meter cutting tables instead of my (slightly less than) two meter cutting table.  I was not crawling around on the floor trying to get the pieces cut out - if for no other reason than the mauve fibers from the carpet would have been really hard to get off the wool...my knees & back supported my decision.

Someone else fell in love with her cloak...but didn't have the money for the wool, the flannel, the satin lining, AND my time. 

Same thing with Burda (pattern company from Europe) jeans that I made her in middle school and again in high school - there was a lot of topstitching involved to get white stripes on plain blue denim, four pieces to the back leg, more pieces to the front leg & pockets, and more topstitching to get things finished...it was not a $12 pair of jeans....
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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #586 on: February 22, 2014, 10:22:55 PM »
I work with a lady named Bea. We worked together last year when my then-current WIPs were those ruffly knitted scarves from that fishnet-type yarn(?). Bea asked me a couple times last month if I'd make some scarves that she could give to her son's teachers for Christmas 2014.

I told her that I only made them for family members. Then she asked again. I told her of someone I knew who could completely crochet one scarf within 40 minutes.

I hope she lets it drop. Making a knitted scarf for a specific family member is an act of love. Trying to churn out 5-7 scarves for her to give as gifts would take the joy out of it for me, and I would never knit those kinds of scarves ever again.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #587 on: February 22, 2014, 10:25:59 PM »
I work with a lady named Bea. We worked together last year when my then-current WIPs were those ruffly knitted scarves from that fishnet-type yarn(?). Bea asked me a couple times last month if I'd make some scarves that she could give to her son's teachers for Christmas 2014.

I told her that I only made them for family members. Then she asked again. I told her of someone I knew who could completely crochet one scarf within 40 minutes.

I hope she lets it drop. Making a knitted scarf for a specific family member is an act of love. Trying to churn out 5-7 scarves for her to give as gifts would take the joy out of it for me, and I would never knit those kinds of scarves ever again.


I had this happen a couple of years ago.  I gave people the choice of $75 for me to make the scarf or 15 min of me teaching them how to make them for free. 

Most people didn't ask again.  The others took me up on my lesson and now churn them out

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #588 on: February 22, 2014, 11:04:07 PM »
 Bea has watched me work on lots of different needlework projects in several mediums, and she says the same thing, "I don't have the patience."

Odd fact......her son and my oldest grandson are in the same grade but are in different classrooms.
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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #589 on: February 23, 2014, 09:50:46 AM »
I lent a book to a friend/coworker once. It only cost $10 but it had been a limited run print. He ended up getting into an argument with a roommate and was "thrown out" and the roommate "lost" a bunch of his stuff, my book included. He never did apologize.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #590 on: February 24, 2014, 06:32:28 AM »
My viewpoint is if you don't do anything crafty (knit, crochet, sew, bake extremely yummy decorated goodies, etc) you have no idea of the cost and time it takes to make anything. 

I once made two friends a small fairy sculpture for christmas. They were personalised to each friend and took me about two days each from start to finish. I was immensely proud of them (now of course, I think they look terrible, but eh, that shows I'm getting better, right?).

My non-crafty friend looked at her fairy, thanked me, and stuck it on a shelf. My crafty friend (a crocheter) examined it from all angles, asked how I did the wings, took much more of an interest. I don't think non-crafty friend was rude, crafty friend was just able to see the time and effort that went into it because she did projects like that herself. Now, non-crafty friend gets purchased presents, and likes them just as much as something I made. For her birthday, crafty friend is getting a plush handmade squid.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #591 on: February 24, 2014, 11:56:46 AM »
My viewpoint is if you don't do anything crafty (knit, crochet, sew, bake extremely yummy decorated goodies, etc) you have no idea of the cost and time it takes to make anything. 

I once made two friends a small fairy sculpture for christmas. They were personalised to each friend and took me about two days each from start to finish. I was immensely proud of them (now of course, I think they look terrible, but eh, that shows I'm getting better, right?).

My non-crafty friend looked at her fairy, thanked me, and stuck it on a shelf. My crafty friend (a crocheter) examined it from all angles, asked how I did the wings, took much more of an interest. I don't think non-crafty friend was rude, crafty friend was just able to see the time and effort that went into it because she did projects like that herself. Now, non-crafty friend gets purchased presents, and likes them just as much as something I made. For her birthday, crafty friend is getting a plush handmade squid.

You make it sound like the only reason non-crafty friend doesn't get homemade gifts anymore is because she didn't gush over the one you made and ask for instructions on how to make it. I found this seller on etsy who makes homemade cat figurines. They are adorable and i have taken to special ordering some as go to gifts for friends who volunteer at the shelter i volunteer for. I don't gush over them, I don't ask how they are made - but I appreciate they take time and effort and considering how many I have bought i am sure she realized that i love them. Some people just aren't gushers - doesn't mean they don't like the gift -just that they aren't going to gush when opening it.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #592 on: February 24, 2014, 02:01:03 PM »
My viewpoint is if you don't do anything crafty (knit, crochet, sew, bake extremely yummy decorated goodies, etc) you have no idea of the cost and time it takes to make anything. 

I once made two friends a small fairy sculpture for christmas. They were personalised to each friend and took me about two days each from start to finish. I was immensely proud of them (now of course, I think they look terrible, but eh, that shows I'm getting better, right?).

My non-crafty friend looked at her fairy, thanked me, and stuck it on a shelf. My crafty friend (a crocheter) examined it from all angles, asked how I did the wings, took much more of an interest. I don't think non-crafty friend was rude, crafty friend was just able to see the time and effort that went into it because she did projects like that herself. Now, non-crafty friend gets purchased presents, and likes them just as much as something I made. For her birthday, crafty friend is getting a plush handmade squid.

You make it sound like the only reason non-crafty friend doesn't get homemade gifts anymore is because she didn't gush over the one you made and ask for instructions on how to make it. I found this seller on etsy who makes homemade cat figurines. They are adorable and i have taken to special ordering some as go to gifts for friends who volunteer at the shelter i volunteer for. I don't gush over them, I don't ask how they are made - but I appreciate they take time and effort and considering how many I have bought i am sure she realized that i love them. Some people just aren't gushers - doesn't mean they don't like the gift -just that they aren't going to gush when opening it.
I completely agree.  "Friend thanked me for a gift and put it on display; I'll never make her a gift again." is such a non sequitur to me. 

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #593 on: February 24, 2014, 02:03:31 PM »
My viewpoint is if you don't do anything crafty (knit, crochet, sew, bake extremely yummy decorated goodies, etc) you have no idea of the cost and time it takes to make anything. 

I once made two friends a small fairy sculpture for christmas. They were personalised to each friend and took me about two days each from start to finish. I was immensely proud of them (now of course, I think they look terrible, but eh, that shows I'm getting better, right?).

My non-crafty friend looked at her fairy, thanked me, and stuck it on a shelf. My crafty friend (a crocheter) examined it from all angles, asked how I did the wings, took much more of an interest. I don't think non-crafty friend was rude, crafty friend was just able to see the time and effort that went into it because she did projects like that herself. Now, non-crafty friend gets purchased presents, and likes them just as much as something I made. For her birthday, crafty friend is getting a plush handmade squid.

You make it sound like the only reason non-crafty friend doesn't get homemade gifts anymore is because she didn't gush over the one you made and ask for instructions on how to make it. I found this seller on etsy who makes homemade cat figurines. They are adorable and i have taken to special ordering some as go to gifts for friends who volunteer at the shelter i volunteer for. I don't gush over them, I don't ask how they are made - but I appreciate they take time and effort and considering how many I have bought i am sure she realized that i love them. Some people just aren't gushers - doesn't mean they don't like the gift -just that they aren't going to gush when opening it.

That may be the case, but that doesn't mean TWO would be wrong not to make homemade gifts for non-crafty friend. TWO would be perfectly in her right to decide only to make homemade gifts for people who gush... Or people who have pink hair... Or people who have pet snakes and wear nothing but polka-dotted clothes. Nobody's entitled to homemade gifts, and TWO can decide for herself who gets some and who doesn't.

(If, in fact, you are right in your interpretation. There may be a ton of othere factors in play.)
 
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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #594 on: February 24, 2014, 02:19:49 PM »
I am thinking about doing craft/art shows again.  It will mostly be for my glass and jewelry, but I'll bring a few quilts with me (I like to use them for backdrops, etc, and sometimes I sell one).

I'm going to go to walmart and buy some of the disgustingly thin, stiff fabric they have that is indeed still $1 (or was last time I looked), and make the cheesiest, worst, handmade quilt that I can - blocks on the front where the corners don't match, scratchy fabric on back, ******* batting with lumps and bare spots, and tied it with plasticy yarn.  Then, when the first comment about cost of materials occurs, I'm going to whip that baby out and show!

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #595 on: February 24, 2014, 02:34:37 PM »
My viewpoint is if you don't do anything crafty (knit, crochet, sew, bake extremely yummy decorated goodies, etc) you have no idea of the cost and time it takes to make anything. 

I once made two friends a small fairy sculpture for christmas. They were personalised to each friend and took me about two days each from start to finish. I was immensely proud of them (now of course, I think they look terrible, but eh, that shows I'm getting better, right?).

My non-crafty friend looked at her fairy, thanked me, and stuck it on a shelf. My crafty friend (a crocheter) examined it from all angles, asked how I did the wings, took much more of an interest. I don't think non-crafty friend was rude, crafty friend was just able to see the time and effort that went into it because she did projects like that herself. Now, non-crafty friend gets purchased presents, and likes them just as much as something I made. For her birthday, crafty friend is getting a plush handmade squid.

I thought I replied to this, but apparently it was one of those times when I wrote out an entire reply, then decided not to post it. :) I understand this. My friend Amy is non-crafty/artsy. I have happily made and given her some crafted things over the years that she specifically asked for, but really for the reaction I got, they might as well have been store-bought. Absolutely nothing she did was rude, she was quite polite about it. But I know from other comments she's made that she simply doesn't appreciate/understand the amount of work that goes into hand-crafting something. (Never will I forget the time she complained about a homemade quilt from her MIL because she "doesn't need another &^%* blanket!")

It's really not her taste; being hand-crafted doesn't make it extra-special for her. She's equally happy, actually even more so, with something store-bought, so why should I go to the extra effort of making something for her by hand? I want to get her stuff that she likes, after all. If she liked and appreciated the homemade stuff, she and her kids could have a lot of it between me and my mom, and my mom and I would have fun making it for her and giving it to her. But, she's not into that, and that's fine. She also only wants stuff that she's picked out, that's on her wish list--she doesn't really like "free thought" gifts. So I try not to get her those, either. Frankly buying gifts for her isn't that much fun because of her various restrictions and reactions, so I only get her gifts at the agreed-upon times, like her birthday and Christmas, in very narrow categories. I don't think of it like I'm punishing her, I think of it like, she has clearly shown me what she likes and I want to abide by that, because I want her to enjoy her gifts.

Now on the other hand my mom is really fun to get gifts for because she gushes, and I gush too, so at Christmas we sit around for days gushing over the wrapping of each other's gifts while my dad goes off to watch TV. I get a lot of gifts for my mom and she gets a lot of gifts for me, because we both like that kind of thing. Other people like different things--Amy actually really likes good food, so she and I go to nice restaurants and have a good time ordering a table full of food. My mom kind of hates eating, so that wouldn't work with her. No one's in the wrong there.
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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #596 on: February 24, 2014, 04:37:52 PM »
I had a SIL twenty odd years ago who was like that. 

She ranked gifts & other items by their cost/perceived value.  Store bought items were obviously easier to rank on that scale than home made or hand made items. 

A cheap costume from the Halloween aisle was "better" in her eyes than a sturdy one from a family member that was made-at-home (so the one hand made from one of Grandma's outfits ended up in a land fill).  It was just easier to make sure that the kids got to KEEP what they'd gotten and buy things by buying them or sewing labels into them so that they looked store bought - she just didn't recognize the manufacturer*...the hand made "custom" gifts were kept for those who appreciated that they were getting "customized" presents.

*She liked "designer" names - but this was before the internet, so she couldn't run a search on a "name" she didn't recognize. 

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #597 on: February 24, 2014, 04:59:15 PM »
When I was a kid my mom and/or grandmother always custom-made my Halloween costumes, but I was jealous of my friends' store-bought costumes and longed vocally for them.  Teenage Dawn realized what a wonderful gift all her mom and grandma's time, work, and skill had been and formally apologized for what an idiot Little Dawn had been.  I still cringe when I think about how ungrateful I was to those two amazing women.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #598 on: February 24, 2014, 05:06:11 PM »
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(Never will I forget the time she complained about a homemade quilt from her MIL because she "doesn't need another &^%* blanket!")

And right there is where you lost me.

Because, it doesn't matter that someone went to all that work, etc., etc.--I don't need another damned blanket! Did I ask them to make me one? No. Do I have *room* for it? No. Is anybody cold in my house? No.

And in my case, do I even *like* homemade quilts? Probably no.
Or do I like the colors/pattern they chose? Probably no.

But now I'm supposed to attach way MORE value to it simply because someone made it for me. I can't donate it to the Goodwill--it'll cause a family rift. Anywhere I put it, I will trip over it.

And every time I see it, I'll be reminded that:
1) I hate it
2) it's in the way
3) I'm a horrible awful nasty ungrateful person because I don't love and cherish it.

And I resent that.

So I pray that nobody gives me anything homemade like that.

I have a crocheted afghan my DH's grandmother made for me. She loved me. But it didn't fit the bed--it was the wrong size. She took it back and added to it so it would. But now it looks funny, because she just added stripes going the other way.
    I love the way it feels, but it's the wrong color, and it's funny-looking. And I don't really like much in the way of handmade stuff; I prefer the finer, more polished look of machine made.

But I have that thing, because I will be slime if I get rid of it.

She also knitted booties to go on this big cloth doll I have from my childhood; it was a gift from "my little old lady down the block." I threw those out. Yes, in the garbage.

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Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies)
« Reply #599 on: February 24, 2014, 05:22:04 PM »
Oh, gosh, I've certainly gotten my share of horrible homemade objects, that's for sure! ;D I remember in particular receiving a creepy doll as a child that was supposed to be a knock-off of a Cabbage Patch doll, which were super-popular then. And my mom is sick to death of the homemade potholders my dad keeps buying from little old ladies at church sales and bringing home.

I'm definitely not saying that just because something is handmade, it's automatically better than store-bought. I don't think the opposite is true either, though. I'm more addressing the idea that, in my experience, if someone doesn't do some craft/art form, they may not realize how much work goes into it. Which I think is actually the point of this thread, people (in general) not understanding that. And if someone shows that they aren't into receiving a homemade object--even if they do so indirectly--then I personally try to be conscious of that, and change what I give them. Just like I don't give Amy chocolate-covered peanuts, because she's allergic to nuts. Or invite her to read stories I've written, because she doesn't like fanfic. Just not her thing.

I would definitely not start making a quilt for someone unless I checked with them first and knew they wanted it! :) Too much effort to spend on something that they might not want.
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