Slightly OT, but I observed from a master of how to deal with obnoxious and demanding parents while helping with a kid choir church musical-
"what do you mean you have attendance requirements to be in the musical?"
"Why does my precious have to audition for the solo?"
"Why do I have to sign up for backstage help/snacks/buy supplies/record keeping/chaperoning, etc...?"
"child cannot attend tech or dress rehearsal, but of course we will be here for performance!"
"I am going to drop off my child early and pick up late, because this is really just child care, right?"
And of course, "You work here! I tell you what to do since I am a church member!"
What Miss Krystyn responded each time was, "I am a volunteer myself, even though i am the director. As volunteers, we have to be extra diligent and responsible in how we volunteer our time with the children. We can always use other volunteers. Would you like to address your concerns with the (paid) music minister (who is not hands-on involved with children's choir) or what would you like to do to sign up as a fellow volunteer?"
And they usually slunked away, although several did diffuse and actually step up and help!
Playing the volunteer card is great!
Krystyn politely explained that she was doing everything for free, on her own time, with two small children of her own to drag around. And she worked hours and hours enough that many did assume she was working for pay at church, because she was there so much!
The worst she ever had was a mom of beautiful young sisters who did not meet rehearsal requirements, did not sign up to be in the play, did not have costumes, did not come for the last final and most difficult rehearsals, including staging, and yet one hour before curtain (late) the mom walked up with her girls' hair all fixed and in beautiful show dresses (the play had all the kids in school clothes) and declared, "sorry we missed so many rehearsals, but here are my girls, ready to sing!"
Krystyn explained that in no way could the girls be on stage because we had several set stage markings, several changes of props and scenery, one dangerous piece of equipment with a motor, and the girls had absolutely no idea what to do because the had missed so much.
Mom's reply, "what? All they are going to do is stand and sing! That is all a musical is!"
Krystyn would not budge, and the girls were upset, but they did stay for the show.
And although I never heard any follow-up, hopefully the mom realized how wrong she was when she saw the musical complete with dancing, fancy lighting, cool props, moving scenery, and one song with a motorized vehicle on stage!!