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#### Jocelyn

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« Reply #300 on: July 05, 2013, 11:31:31 AM »
Lilacgirl,
It's the details that cost. It's also the details that make it special.
First, you need to find a quilter who has a sewing machine that will do embroidery. Not all of us have them. They're computerized, and the machine embroiders a multi-colored picture. I don't have an embroidery machine, but I'd guess that the more colors in the design, the more a person would charge for the design, because she has to do more work in changing colors and making sure the picture lines up right to add the next colors. But you might get lucky with finding someone who is very skilled and doesn't charge extra for it.
The pictures on the page I looked at range from some very easy ones, to some more complex ones. The alternating 6" squares would be cheaper than anything using small pieces. Small pieces take longer to cut out, longer to sew back together, and there's more fabric wasted in seam allowances. I'm working on a quilt using some 6" blocks, and I was astounded at how quickly it went together.
Then, there's the quilting. If you're working with someone who has a longarm quilting machine, she will be able to do this faster than someone who quilts on a regular sewing machine. However, that varies, with the skill a quilter has using the machines! So you might find someone who is really skilled with a standard sewing machine, as opposed to someone who just bought her longarm and is still learning how to use it. Then there are people like me, who hire quilters to machine quilt for them! So don't assume that because someone knows how to piece a top, she'll be able to piece a quilt AND finish it for you.

I'd recommend that you attend quilt shows and craft shows, looking for something you like, and then ask the maker if she takes commissions. Or check for a local quilt guild, go to a meeting, and ask. Hunt quilt pictures on the Internet, and take a folder of ideas with you, like you'd do if you were going to a new hair stylist. Ask what sorts of fabrics she wants to use, whether she wants you to buy it, and where she will buy it. There are Internet stores like Hancocks of Paducah that sell top-quality quilting fabric for less. Many of us will not agree to work on cheap fabric because we know it won't hold up long-term, especially for a kid's quilt which is going to get wallowed around upon and spilled on and washed more often than an adult's quilt.

Quilters love the idea of making quilts accessible to the next generation. I don't do quilting for hire, but I'll bet there's someone out there who will be charmed with the idea of making quilts for your kids, and who will help you work out a way to get it done.

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#### magicdomino

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« Reply #301 on: July 05, 2013, 12:53:02 PM »

I did not end up leaving it and it still sits,rolled up in a tube because I won't risk it again. Someday I will have to take a course in framing and matting.
Surely there are other places that do framing than that one store?

Don't be afraid to check professional  framing shops.  I've noticed that Michael's (and probably A.C. Moore) have very high regular prices to compensate for the frequent 50% off coupons.  The little framing shop near my office isn't cheap, but it isn't much more than Michael's, and the work is done in house rather than shipped off.

#### Raina

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« Reply #302 on: July 05, 2013, 01:27:07 PM »
Thank you for this thread! It makes me feel not so alone

I've always been a pretty good baker and I regularly make goods at home for DH and myself to enjoy.  I've also recently learned to quilt, having wanted to for years and finally got my first sewing machine in January.  Somehow, I got it into my head that in addition to a smaller purchased gift for SIL's birthday several months ago, I also wanted to make her a quilt since she's complained of always being cold in her apt, etc.  Plus I'm new to this craft and wanted to practice, and it gave me an excuse to buy more fabric

After spending more than $80 on materials (normal bday budget is$20, which SIL set the rule for) and 30 hours piecing and quilting, it was complete and DH and I both thought it was great.  I'm not invited to their family time on the weekends so sent DH with the gifts for her and this is what he reported back to me:

SIL: (opening gifts) Oh... Is this a quilt? Did Raina make this?
DH: She sure did! We thought you could use it for the couch or something since you said you're always cold.
SIL: Well... It's very well coordinated...
DH: She spent weeks making it and designing it.
SIL: Where's my birthday cake? Did Raina make one for me?
DH: No, she didn't have time because she spent so much time on the quilt.
SIL: But I already told my co-workers that I'd share my cake with them!!

#### kckgirl

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« Reply #303 on: July 05, 2013, 01:29:19 PM »
I think that's the last cake or quilt I'd make for that SIL.

#### jedikaiti

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« Reply #304 on: July 05, 2013, 01:31:23 PM »
Did DH take the quilt back?

And yea, she wouldn't be getting squat from me ever again.
What part of v_e = \sqrt{\frac{2GM}{r}} don't you understand? It's only rocket science!

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#### stitchygreyanonymouse

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« Reply #305 on: July 05, 2013, 01:44:14 PM »
Thank you for this thread! It makes me feel not so alone

I've always been a pretty good baker and I regularly make goods at home for DH and myself to enjoy.  I've also recently learned to quilt, having wanted to for years and finally got my first sewing machine in January.  Somehow, I got it into my head that in addition to a smaller purchased gift for SIL's birthday several months ago, I also wanted to make her a quilt since she's complained of always being cold in her apt, etc.  Plus I'm new to this craft and wanted to practice, and it gave me an excuse to buy more fabric

After spending more than $80 on materials (normal bday budget is$20, which SIL set the rule for) and 30 hours piecing and quilting, it was complete and DH and I both thought it was great. I'm not invited to their family time on the weekends so sent DH with the gifts for her and this is what he reported back to me:

SIL: (opening gifts) Oh... Is this a quilt? Did Raina make this?
DH: She sure did! We thought you could use it for the couch or something since you said you're always cold.
SIL: Well... It's very well coordinated...
DH: She spent weeks making it and designing it.
SIL: Where's my birthday cake? Did Raina make one for me?
DH: No, she didn't have time because she spent so much time on the quilt.
SIL: But I already told my co-workers that I'd share my cake with them!!

I’m getting hung up on why you would make someone who has events that you're not allowed to attend a quilt.

But after that conversation, I certainly wouldn't be baking, sewing, or buying for her ever again.

#### Girlie

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« Reply #306 on: July 05, 2013, 01:53:26 PM »
I’m getting hung up on why you would make someone who has events that you're not allowed to attend a quilt.

But after that conversation, I certainly wouldn't be baking, sewing, or buying for her ever again.

I was thinking the exact same thing.

#### amylouky

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« Reply #307 on: July 05, 2013, 01:53:55 PM »

This story kills me. Short version, a group of quilters donated several handmade quilts to the Red Cross, to be given to victims of a tornado that wiped out a town near me last year.
Forward about a month, one of the quilters sees her quilts for sale at a local thrift shop. For $50. I don't even do quilts, or craft anything well enough to sell, but I was angry on their behalf. #### jedikaiti • Swiss Army Nerd • Member • Posts: 2908 • A pie in the hand is worth two in the mail. ##### Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies) « Reply #308 on: July 05, 2013, 01:56:53 PM » Thank you for this thread! It makes me feel not so alone I've always been a pretty good baker and I regularly make goods at home for DH and myself to enjoy. I've also recently learned to quilt, having wanted to for years and finally got my first sewing machine in January. Somehow, I got it into my head that in addition to a smaller purchased gift for SIL's birthday several months ago, I also wanted to make her a quilt since she's complained of always being cold in her apt, etc. Plus I'm new to this craft and wanted to practice, and it gave me an excuse to buy more fabric After spending more than$80 on materials (normal bday budget is $20, which SIL set the rule for) and 30 hours piecing and quilting, it was complete and DH and I both thought it was great. I'm not invited to their family time on the weekends so sent DH with the gifts for her and this is what he reported back to me: SIL: (opening gifts) Oh... Is this a quilt? Did Raina make this? DH: She sure did! We thought you could use it for the couch or something since you said you're always cold. SIL: Well... It's very well coordinated... DH: She spent weeks making it and designing it. SIL: Where's my birthday cake? Did Raina make one for me? DH: No, she didn't have time because she spent so much time on the quilt. SIL: But I already told my co-workers that I'd share my cake with them!! I’m getting hung up on why you would make someone who has events that you're not allowed to attend a quilt. But after that conversation, I certainly wouldn't be baking, sewing, or buying for her ever again. That, too. Are you the only excluded spouse, or is it bio family only? What part of v_e = \sqrt{\frac{2GM}{r}} don't you understand? It's only rocket science! "The problem with re-examining your brilliant ideas is that more often than not, you discover they are the intellectual equivalent of saying, 'Hold my beer and watch this!'" - Cindy Couture #### amylouky • Member • Posts: 1524 ##### Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies) « Reply #309 on: July 05, 2013, 01:59:19 PM » Thank you for this thread! It makes me feel not so alone I've always been a pretty good baker and I regularly make goods at home for DH and myself to enjoy. I've also recently learned to quilt, having wanted to for years and finally got my first sewing machine in January. Somehow, I got it into my head that in addition to a smaller purchased gift for SIL's birthday several months ago, I also wanted to make her a quilt since she's complained of always being cold in her apt, etc. Plus I'm new to this craft and wanted to practice, and it gave me an excuse to buy more fabric After spending more than$80 on materials (normal bday budget is $20, which SIL set the rule for) and 30 hours piecing and quilting, it was complete and DH and I both thought it was great. I'm not invited to their family time on the weekends so sent DH with the gifts for her and this is what he reported back to me: SIL: (opening gifts) Oh... Is this a quilt? Did Raina make this? DH: She sure did! We thought you could use it for the couch or something since you said you're always cold. SIL: Well... It's very well coordinated... DH: She spent weeks making it and designing it. SIL: Where's my birthday cake? Did Raina make one for me? DH: No, she didn't have time because she spent so much time on the quilt. SIL: But I already told my co-workers that I'd share my cake with them!! So, wait. SIL has a birthday celebration (even if it's during normal family time) to which you are NOT INVITED.. and has the nerve to complain that you didn't send along a cake in addition to the beautiful handmade gift? The mind, it boggles. It does raise the question of what is up with the family-only time, though. I wouldn't go to something that my DH wasn't allowed to attend. #### HenrysMom • Member • Posts: 2402 ##### Re: But ... But ... It's Not Like It's Work! (Craft Freebies) « Reply #310 on: July 05, 2013, 02:03:33 PM » Thank you for this thread! It makes me feel not so alone I've always been a pretty good baker and I regularly make goods at home for DH and myself to enjoy. I've also recently learned to quilt, having wanted to for years and finally got my first sewing machine in January. Somehow, I got it into my head that in addition to a smaller purchased gift for SIL's birthday several months ago, I also wanted to make her a quilt since she's complained of always being cold in her apt, etc. Plus I'm new to this craft and wanted to practice, and it gave me an excuse to buy more fabric After spending more than$80 on materials (normal bday budget is \$20, which SIL set the rule for) and 30 hours piecing and quilting, it was complete and DH and I both thought it was great. I'm not invited to their family time on the weekends so sent DH with the gifts for her and this is what he reported back to me:

SIL: (opening gifts) Oh... Is this a quilt? Did Raina make this?
DH: She sure did! We thought you could use it for the couch or something since you said you're always cold.
SIL: Well... It's very well coordinated...
DH: She spent weeks making it and designing it.
SIL: Where's my birthday cake? Did Raina make one for me?
DH: No, she didn't have time because she spent so much time on the quilt.
SIL: But I already told my co-workers that I'd share my cake with them!!

I’m getting hung up on why you would make someone who has events that you're not allowed to attend a quilt.

But after that conversation, I certainly wouldn't be baking, sewing, or buying for her ever again.

That, too. Are you the only excluded spouse, or is it bio family only?

I'm boggled that Raina's DH would go to an event where his wife wasn't welcome and that Raina is okay with that.

#### Amara

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« Reply #311 on: July 05, 2013, 02:11:34 PM »
Raina, are you not considered family? By your husband or his family? I am aghast at the idea.

#### rose red

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« Reply #312 on: July 05, 2013, 02:26:41 PM »
Even without the issue of the quilt, she expected you to make a cake for a party you were shut out off?  Why?  Because it's family?  Oh, wait...

#### HenrysMom

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« Reply #313 on: July 05, 2013, 02:29:19 PM »
The post about the Red Cross quilt made me remember this story from my knitting instructor:

Instructor leads a group of volunteers to knit squares for "Warm Up America."  Instructor and others in the group will sometimes knit up to 25 coordinated squares to make 1 afghan, other times, it is a collection of random colors/styles/yarns grouped together.  All the resulting afghans were being donated to an abused women and children's shelter in the county.  That ended when she saw one of the coordinated afghans decorating the wall of the shelter director's office.  The afghans are now donated elsewhere.

#### Raina

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« Reply #314 on: July 05, 2013, 03:12:13 PM »
It's...an interesting situation, to say the least.  DH's family is insensitive? on many levels either by their ignorance, selfishness, or refusal to recognize that the world doesn't revolve around them.  DH is completely different from them and I think he is the way he is (laid back, responsible, loyal, etc) because they are the way they are.

Every weekend, he and SIL go over to MIL's house (FIL passed before DH and I got together) to hang out with her for a bit, DH helps around the house if needed, then he and SIL go work out together (she won't go without him).  This has been their routine for 15+ years? I'm not invited because they wouldn't think to and they're not welcoming to me so I wouldn't really want to.  DH has learned from our past experiences that when they exclude me from things, he's not supposed to be laid back about it and he's supposed to stick up for me, like when they blatantly didn't invite me to their Christmas gathering.  This particular thing though, I've never been asked to come over, and as it happens every single week, it's not worth causing a huge fuss over.

The in laws are prone to extreme drama and I try to save our efforts for the bigger grievances.  I chalk this up to this is how his family has done it for years and they're not going to change anytime soon.  Plus, if I'd been there in person, I'm not so sure I could've stopped evilRaina from speaking quite rudely.

Definitely no more handmade (or handbaked!) gifts for people who don't appreciate them though!

I think SIL was wanting another creation similar to the 7 layer chocolate truffle cake I made as her gift on a different year.  You'd think I'd learn to stop hoping his family would appreciate anything