So this happens with my BF, but I am putting it in the general life section because I am sure other eHellions have experienced it with various people in various relationships
My BF is very literal minded and detail oriented. He has a habit of correcting me on what I consider trivial things when I am talking about something. I find it very annoying that he fixates on little details, especially when they usually have nothing to do with my point. I feel end up feeling like he doesn't understand, isn't listening and/or cares more about being right.
I can't think of an actual example so I will make one up here:
Me: "So I couldn't catch my 2nd bus and I had to walk all the way to the ferry. Good thing it was blue skies and not raining!"
Him: "You know, the sky isn't actually blue that's just the color that comes through the light spectrum."
Me: *mentally taking a deeeep breath.
* "Yeah. Um, anyway I'm just glad I made it to the ferry on time."
Or something like:
Me: "So when *important historical event happened* in 1956, it was important because-"
Him: "Actually I'm pretty sure it was 1957."
Me: *wondering why the ehell one lousy year bleepin matters especially since we're discussing historical event!
* "...so yeah when it happened in whatever year it happened-"
Him: "I'm positive it was 1957 because *blah blah blah needless justification*"
Me: *done with talking about important historical event and just about done in general*
I had a minor epiphany when I went to visit my BF and met his roommate - they do this to each other quite a lot and it is often in reference to the accuracy of sports or other competitive events:
BF: "Yeah I totally beat your high score in *video game* by like 200 points.
Roommate: "You only beat my score in beginners difficulty and it was 199 points."
BF: "Man, you're a sore loser like *professional sports player.*"
Roommate: "Ha! You mean *other professional sports player*!"
Me: thinking - *well either way he beat you and why the heck does any of this matter??
So I'm thinking that in my BF's case this is in part a macho one-up habit that he has gotten into by spending so much time competing with the guys he hangs out with?
Also, I have to admit that I have corrected BF on the details or facts of a subject on a few occasions. I can't help but notice he doesn't seem to like it.
So the questions I have are
1) When do you correct people and when do you let things go?
2) How do you correct people politely if you do feel the need to correct them?
3) How do you handle it when someone's correcting you is coming across and nitpicking/rude and is really annoying?