Any of those gifts were surely received with great appreciation. 10 years ago.
But now, every one of them is a negative force. So I'm all for her getting rid of them.
But as I think about it, I don't think it's all that polite to be quite so blatant about it. Every etiquette source I've read has spoken about getting rod if them discreetly.
(Though, 12 years later, it's not as bad a thing, since she presumably got a lot of use out of them. I wonder if she even remembers they were wedding gifts.)
Important to add: Her divorce was finalised about 2 years ago, and she hasn't downsized to a smaller place...in fact, after the divorce she lived with her parents for a year or so, then moved into a different apartment in the same complex where she and her ex-DH lived while they were married. She recently took a rather extravagant holiday to London so I don't know that she's hurting for money, unless she *really* overspent.
I don't think any of this matters. Those are all personal choices she's entitled to make.
She still can dispose of gifts, if she does it discreetly. But she's not being discreet, and that is the problem. The only problem IMO.
And I agree w/ peaches--it makes not the TINIEST difference whether she needs the money, needs the space, whatever. In fact, God forbid that she should somehow be required to keep crap she doesn't need--stuff that gets in her way and takes up storage space and makes life difficult--stuff that makes her feel guilty every time she looks at it--simply because she doesn't need the money or hasn't downsized. (In fact, if you consider that it is now 10 years later, she doesn't NEED to have downsized for her home to have become MORE crowded. Stuff has been coming into her house in a steady stream--10 years of Christmases, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.)
I've never met the woman nor seen her house, adn yet I firmly believe that she has WAY too much stuff she doesn't want or need or use, and that this stuff is having a negative effect on her quality of life.
So, I personally would be the tiniest bit disappointed that my gift wasn't a treasured item. But I'd also be relieved for her that she was creating more space in her life for the things she wants most of all.
Academically, however, I don't think advertising the sale to the ame group of people who gave you the present is a polite thing to do.