I thought the original agreement was for Vicki to pay $30 more than equal share, 2nd room pays at room share and OP's dd pays $30 less than room share? Did I have that wrong? And then Vicki wants to pay $20 less which with splitting increases the other two roommates each an extra $10?
Clarification (others responded correctly): Vicki's cap is $20 over equal share which she is willing to pay. So there is only $10/month over her cap that is in question Divided between Laura and DD#1, it would be an extra $5/month for each of them -- so only an extra $60 each for the year.
I completely agree with everybody that said it was pretty awful of Vicki to have pulled this at the last minute, when rent is due.
All 3 of them are on the lease, all three signed. They cannot send a separate check to the landlord. They are taking monthly turns as to who's responsibility it will be to gather the monies and send the Landlord the check. It's DD#1's turn this month.
Maybe when it's Vicki's turn to pay, DD#1 and Laura could hold back $10/each? ($5 for when it's Laura's turn + $5 for when it's DD#1's turn.) That sounds like a good idea, but I'm not sure I like it. That almost seems PA to me.
I agree with PPs that a solid arrangement should be reached before the next month's rent is due, and should be done in writing. (It should have been reached before they all moved in together!)
Last I talked to DD#1 she said she didn't even want the larger room any more (she likes her space), so she's staying out of it. Apparently Laura is vying for the larger room and is perfectly willing to pay the higher amount.
I very much understand the Backbone vs. Doormat comments that people are making. However, DD#1 has had a few uncomfortable years with a couple of roommates while she was living in the dorms. That's why I asked her if $5/month was worth fighting over if it led to unhappy roomies.
But you all gave such convincing comments that I'm now thinking I did DD#1 a disservice by leaning towards the "suck it up for the sake of peace" side.
Yes, I do see the point of "Give Vicki an inch, she'll probably take a mile" but I'm hoping that Vicki is not like that.
Additional BG: Vicki & DD#1 were roommates in the dorm, along with two other girls, during their sophomore year. Vicki was one of the good roomies. During Jr. year, Vicki lived in an apartment and DD#1 lived in the dorm.)
DD#1 and Vicki kept up their friendship. Vicki has always been pretty generous with bday (concert tickets!) & xmas gifts, while DD#1 gifted what she could afford and treated Vicki to a cup of coffee or whatever every now and then.
DD#1 and Laura have been friends since freshman yr. in HS (7+ years.) Laura is not a student (she went to community college, earned her Associates degree and is working full time.)
Laura and Vicki met for the first time in April, when DD#1 and Laura started talking about getting an apartment together. Vicki was DD#1's first choice for a 3rd roomie. endBG.
I don't know if the additional BG is necessary, but I thought you all might like to know.
I thank everybody for their responses. This is a very interesting thread to me because, other than husbands, I've never lived with a roommate.
P.S. onikenbai -- I love your solution, except it must be Skippy!
Oh! Another Question: At this point, since everybody is moved in, how could one possibly force
Vicki out of the largest bedroom without Vicki's agreement?