No no no jpcher..I should have been more specific and said in real life. And yes, it does sound heartless to say I am just laughing at her so I will give a bit of background. My DD has battled some mental health issues, the last 2 years have been a series of hospitalizations and placements. We have been through so much family therapy, I almost have a degree now myself
. Her therapists have stressed the fact that she needed to take responsibility for her actions and to make plausible life goals instead of just doing what she wanted when she wanted then flying off the handle and blaming me when it all went south. They stressed that she was almost an adult and once she turned 18, I could be her advisor, but I could no longer step in and clean up after her and they stressed to me I had to cut the strings and let her sink or swim. She repeatedly said she knew better than me and I was not going to hold her back. She was getting in a good place..GED classes, a small part time job, but her gf, who has made her own series of bad decisions convinced her when my DD turned 18 to live in the land of unicorns and rainbows with her. 2 girls, no jobs, one effectively homeless and living in her car until it got towed away for expired registration/plates, one with no education past 11th grade, but 2 weeks away from her GED test, couch surfing and wearing out their welcome every where they go. I can't do anything but sit back and laugh because not only did I, but her friends, my friends, relatives try to talk her out of this but she told me she could make it on her own just fine. I worry about her, I love her, I will welcome her back (once) but I will also let her make these choices on her own. She has had lifelong education about school, work ethics, personal responsibility, credit responsibility..now it is up to her.